You know how most of the world is so so so agaisnt gay people. Stereotype and stuff. I'm gay/bi..but have foced myself to say and think I'm strait. I'm tired...tired of hiding. I cant much longer. My family is very homophobic. The world is so homophobic towards gay guys...to were I have started going along with them doing gay guys wrong talking about them. I'm just really tired of hiding what I really want. My chest hurts?
2007-02-12 16:34:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I'm sorry the world right now is so hard for you guys. Hang in there, and stop pretending to be something you're not. Life's too short. Just worry about being a good person and stop letting religious zealots make you feel bad.
2007-02-12 16:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason to hide who you are. Yes, some people are very 'phoibic' but it's there problem, not yours! There are just as many people out there who will support you as there are those who will want to down you. Be true to yourself! Life's to short to play pretend the whole way through it, right?
You seem concerned about how your family will react if you told them your sexual orientation. That's common, especially within families who appear 'phobic.' The truth is, they may disprove all the want, but in the end they're still your family, and will still love you. It will probably take them some time to adjust, and get used to the idea, and some things may be said that will be regretted later by everyone. But family is family, and they'll either come around or not. You can't change what people's reactions might be, but you can change how you feel about yourself...this has caused you enough grief that you're physically in pain--that tells me that it's time to end the charade.
The choice is ultimately yours, it's your life after all. It's up to you how you choose to live it, no one else. Good luck in whatever you decide!
2007-02-13 00:47:30 · answer #2 · answered by Midnight Butterfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can either come out of the closet or wait it out until you're an appropriate age to live on your own and do your own thing (assuming you still live with or around you family).
Don't lie to yourself though. If you love men, love men!
Don't trash talk them the next time they're brought up. If they ask why, say something along the lines of "it's not fair to judge them, is it? Didn't "so and so religious figure" say not to judge people?"
2007-02-13 00:40:12 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking that gay equates to evil it is only a reflection of your physical and emotional preference. What you do with that preference may be considered by some to be good or evil but who are they to judge. Only your actions are relevant and not what you find attractive. To try to conform you have taken some actions which go against your self image. Stop.
Your parents taught you that lying was wrong and you believe it. Stop lying.
2007-02-13 01:49:33 · answer #4 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be true to yourself and your family. But be careful who you tell. There are alot of homophobic people out there who do terrible things to gays. So just, be cautious about it. And good luck.
2007-02-13 00:50:25 · answer #5 · answered by Abby C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only hurting yourself. You can't go against yourself and be happy or fulfilled in life. If the people around you can't be supportive and love you for yourself, then find people who will. Talk to a counselor, and start to find the courage to be yourself.
2007-02-13 00:41:56 · answer #6 · answered by keri gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bible says that homosexuals will not go to Heaven. This is only if you chose to be gay/bi/lesbian, but if you were born this way then you won't be judged for it. That's my understanding of it at least.
2007-02-13 04:43:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
best of wishes to you.
2007-02-13 00:40:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋