Ok well, I have a boyfriend who i am madly in love with
i love everything about him,
but i dont understand why i want one more night with Ex -boyfriend even tho i love my current boyfriend dearly.
My ex is always wanting me to come have a "secret one night fling" with him, and for some reason it is really tempting,
lately i have even think about having sex with my ex , but yet ,he is NO better than the boyfriend that i have now.
my current boyfriend is great and he has given me no reson to make me desire for my Ex but it still happens.i love my boyfriend very much ,and deep inside i really dont want to go with my Ex boyfriend for a one night fling beacuse i will feel very guilty after and my current boyfreind is a great guy,for some kind of strange reason part of me wants to go just one more time with me ex.i never had a feeling like this before . has anyone even been through the same thing before???
and how do i stop this feeling without having to give into my Ex?? plz Help!
2007-02-12 16:11:06 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ps, I love my current boyfriend alot, and i have no desire to ever leave him,and i dont think about my EX -boyfriend unless its sexually... what could this mean??
2007-02-12 16:13:24 · update #1
awwww, im sorry to hear that, Mike and i hope things are going much better for you now, Yes your right thats a good idea ,i really think i will cut my Ex bf out of my life, just so there will be no more temptation..and I will stay with my current boyfriend, and yes thats is so true, that i dont have to sneak on a great guy just for one night of sex with an ex....and I really love my current boyfriend, so i will respect him and his feelings and eliminate my Ex-boyfriend from my life for good, thats why they are called Ex's, right? Yes thank you so much everyone, I made the decision to stay with the boyfriend that i have now (my current bf), beacuse i will not take a chance on loosing a great guy, and i will make the right choice and continue my life with my good current boyfriend..yes thank you so much for the good advice everyone : )
2007-02-12 17:06:48 · update #2
Sounds like my wife. I have been in your boyfriends shoes, And it is no fun. If you truly love your boyfriend you should cut the Ex out of your life. Remove the temptation. I wish my wife had of done that. Instead she cheated on me with him once and than emotionally cheated on me for years. As I sit here typing I think that it has finally broken me. I have slept on my couch for two days debating on leaving her.
Please make your choice but put yourself in his shoes, because I am in his shoes and it has broken my heart.
2007-02-12 16:28:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ouch... not a very nice situation to be in. The right thing to do would be to tell your ex to back off and to simply put all your energy into your new bf. If he is as great as you say, then he deserves your full attention.
However, I have never been one to do the right thing so from a personal point of view I'd say - unless you are married to this new guy (which you are not)... go have one last night of pure passion. Alot of girls don't seem able to separate emotions/love from pure lust. But for the very few of us who are able to do that... having passionate sex with someone, doesn't make you love your guy any less. I can only imagine that I'll be cricified for saying this.
2007-02-12 16:20:11 · answer #2 · answered by Aneska G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through this same thing almost 5 yrs ago with my current bf . The temptation remained as long as I continued to communicate with my ex bf. I never did anything that I could not tell my current bf & I am glad to say I didn't . The feeling will subside as long as they are out of sight out of mind . Take in consideration what ur current bf will mean to ur future. In time as stressful situation arise with ur current bf it may make u want to talk ,spend time or get back at ur current bf.
2007-02-12 16:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that there is a high that you crave that only your ex could give you. If this one you're with now was enough for you I don't think you would think of the ex at all.
Maybe you want to experience a new high...two boyfriends. Love triangle. If even just temporary.
Live it out or abstain. Nothing too complex about those options.
Maybe you've got a case of "Bad Boy" needs.
2007-02-12 16:24:09 · answer #4 · answered by md.pierce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means you ex was great in bed but would you risk something really good for a night of great sex?
Why don't you apply the same sex tricks you used to use with your ex but in your current relationship?
Do new things and cut all communication with your ex. He is EX and seconds parts have never been good.
2007-02-12 16:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by C6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore ur ex.... u need to stop talking to him because thats whats making u desire him... It is already unfaightful what u are doing and ur current bf does not deserve it ... Put a stop to that before it costs u a great guy.
2007-02-12 16:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by ~Sweet Allie~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were truely in love with your currant boyfriend you wouln't have these desires.
You obviously had something (sex) going on with the ex that you deep down want to continue.
Does ex just want 1 night or is this bait to lure you back?
Be honest with yourself If you were alone would you go back?
Do you really think your boyfriend will not figure this out ? He will.
Its not fair to the new guy to be drooling over the ex. and keeping contact with the ex knowing what he wants is just teasing him.
You can't have your cake and eat it too. You are going to have to cut one or the other loose.
make your mind up.
2007-02-12 16:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by andi d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sound like you still have feeling for your ex. and that not good
when you say you love your current. if you know that he want
to be wiith you then why are you allowiing this to happen , you
know what you need to do but if you feel that you cant really
make the decision not to be with the ex. regardless of one
night or what ever. then you need to let the current one know
how you feel. because the fact that you are thinking serious
about it say it all doesnt it. time for you to step up to the plate
and do what is right.
2007-02-12 16:18:32 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a crush, ignor it and tell ur ex to back off, I know what u mean, it will go
2007-02-12 16:15:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear...... Try telling your ex "NO it wont happen" and tell your self and see if that works. If it doesnt, May God help you!
2007-02-12 16:16:17 · answer #10 · answered by Alex C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋