my great grandpa is dyeing and i wanted to know if it was okey that i am not that sad . mainly because i didnt know him i travel so i never got to really see him is it okey though is all i want to know !
2007-02-12 16:05:23 · 16 answers · asked by tikigirl8918 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes ,if you don't know someone and they pass away ,you don't know them so how can you possibly be sad ?Now you can be remorseful .People deal with loses differently maybe it will hit you later you know, don't be so worried about it .He is family but he is also like a stranger because you don't know him.My condolences go out to you and you're family
2007-02-12 16:12:07 · answer #1 · answered by TRUTH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 01:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by luera 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to be sad about the death of someone you don't really know. You can be sad for the loss of those you love (for example you grandparents and parents) and be caring and sympathetic when they want to talk to you about their feelings.
Society tells us that when someone in our family is dying or has died the correct response it to mourn, but if you don't feel like you knew or had a connection with your ggf, you're not a bad person for not being sad, so try not to beat yourself up about it.
2007-02-12 16:18:45 · answer #3 · answered by Nat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is okay, but try to be sensitive to your relatives who are feeling sad. Ask them to tell you about him, and what he means to them, so you can understand and they can share. My great grandpa died before I was born, so I never had a chance to really know who he was. Look at this as an opportunity to learn and understand the family you came from.
2007-02-12 16:45:48 · answer #4 · answered by UpanishadMorning 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to feel really sad about someone dying when you don't know them very well and don't see them very often. I think how you feel is totally normal for your relationship with him.
Even when someone really close to you dies, sometimes it's like you go into shock for a while first and it takes you a few hours or even a few days to really feel sad about it.
Don't feel pressured to act like you feel anything you don't feel (like fake cry at the funeral or anything) but do be respectful and sympathetic to those who may be more upset than you are.
2007-02-12 16:16:35 · answer #5 · answered by cg17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it's okay if you're not sad. Sounds like you never got to know him very well. Grieving depends on how deep the bond was between you and the one you lost. My father died 12 years ago and I couldn't grieve because he dropped out of my life when I was only 8 yrs. old.
2007-02-12 17:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes that is perfectly normal you should not fell guilty for filling this way ether its just like with a stranger if we were all sad when a stranger dies the world would be a very unhappy place so you did not really know him so you will not be that upset its perfectly normal
2007-02-12 16:19:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats normal. my aunt died and I only met her once in my life and my other aunt is dying of kidney dysfunction right now and im not that sad. some people just arent as sensitive. when my grandmas 20yr cat died that I knew all my life. I didnt cry. I was just in shock.
2007-02-12 16:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by kyah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know although dying sucks its not always the worst option. sometimes its better for people to go if its their time. if you weren't really that close to him, and he has lived out a full life, I think its perfectly normal for you to not be really sad
2007-02-12 16:24:31 · answer #9 · answered by Papa Log 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Death is as much a part of life as breathing. Do not be sad He has learned his life lessons and is going home. What is important is he know es you love him!
2007-02-12 16:10:58 · answer #10 · answered by Amie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋