Hey, ok I am a freshman in college and the other week I took this sophomore girl out to dinner. While we ate she asked if I would ever date a non sorority girl since I am in a fraternity and etc she also asked how many girlfriends I had had thus far in school etc. Then today I asked if she wanted to meet up and she said yes but she then texted me again and she seemed a little upset that I had asked her friend if I should ask her out again, that next time just ask her. What kind of things should I be picking up here. Thanks ..Also I asked her if she was doing anything for valentines and she was like i think i may have to study etc. Ive taken her out twice isn 4 days.
2007-02-12 15:54:09 · 12 answers · asked by SR 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we talked about different thing sreally just getting to know each other........I'm not seeing any other girls now, i mean i am but she doesnt know and if we started "going out" then id drop them but i dont think thats he problem here she doenst know
2007-02-12 16:01:56 · update #1
ya the friend was a guy
2007-02-12 16:02:49 · update #2
so i feel you should leave her alone for sometime.. and think
2007-02-12 16:01:57 · answer #1 · answered by Richa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chicks LOVE CONFIDENCE and you probably showed lack of same by asking the girlfriend. Don't grab her by the hair and hit her over the head with a club; "UG GORFO like you much, go my way".
Two dates does NOT make a relationship, but a second one is a start. If you got a hug with the "face turn" at the magic moment then you have some work to do. Do NOT force it because you will feel like an idiot and she will be PISSED!
The sorority question was a character question to see if you are some lame schoolboy living the frat life; you didn't mention if she is in sorority.
I would suggest that you call her and say, "Look, I am not doing anything for valentines and you have to eat so I will be by at 7 or whatever to pick you up. If you can't take a break in your studies fine, but I will be there just the same. You are fun, I enjoy your company and you make me laugh, so lets get some dinner and then you can finish later."
If you are serious about her and not just looking to get layed and dump take some flowers or a pathos (plant) NOT ROSES; to premature in the relationship. The roses come later and she has to learn how it feels to WANT!
BE CONFIDENT but not an EGO FREAK! It also helps if you disclose a weakness and ask her how she feels about it. Then LISTEN.
Be HONEST but not whiney, do NOT use HER so you get bragging rights and respect her as a person even if it doesn't work out. You have four years to go and you certainly don't want her to tell anyone that will listen that you are a PIG.
I have been around the block at 61 years old. I met a woman a couple of years ago that was 35 (A MILF to you) but she sported a nice rack, 24" waist, about 5'10", blonde, well spoken/educated and she went commando! We had lunch for a first date and she wanted someone to take her out of town every weekend (it was tempting, but I passed). I took her home, she put her arms around my neck and gave me a KISS. I picked her up, kicked the door closed, carried her upstairs and it was a GLORIOUS afternoon. When I was leaving she said, "I know that it is not going beyond what we had, but can I email you"?
I figured that I would never hear from her again until I got mail. "Hey Jacques, I have a new boyfriend that is an IB but doesn't know where we should go. Can you help"?
I suggested a weekend that probably cost the poor guy $5K, but she had a GREAT TIME!
I got mail the next week that said, "Sorry that you weren't there, we had a GREAT time and THANKS! He wanted to know how I knew about this place and I just told him magazines; wanta have "lunch" sometime?
I wrote back, "Glad it went well, but I can't afford you. Rock ON, BE HAPPY and BUILD your relationship as it is".
She wrote back, "BEST lunch that I have ever had you "FU****", be safe, be fun and THANKS".
CONFIDENCE without being a DIC****D is the KEY! Throw in some respect and you are home free.
GOOD luck!
J
2007-02-12 16:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by jacquesstcroix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of unknowns here. For example...what else did y'all talk about? Was there any chemistry? One big lesson...dont go to the friend. It makes the girl in question feel like you dont know a thing about her or your sneaking behind her back to find out something. She may have said no to the Valentines thing because y'all have only been out twice. Valentines is a serious thing and maybe she doesnt want to get serious so quick. Give her time and dont come on too strong. Most of all, remember, you are young and have all the time in the world.
2007-02-12 15:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just doesn't want you to be sneaking around her back, be upfront with her. She may be a little upset with you now but if you show her that you are a man by being bold and confident she will soon forget. Do something romantic and spontaneous on valentines day, but not too over the top. Also, dont make her think that you expect her to drop everything to be with you, maybe she really does need to study.
Id say try bringing a single rose or something along those lines and then tell her that you understand that she needs to study but maybe you two could do something later that week. This is just a suggestion of course. You can come up with your own romantic gesture if you want. Just remember to keep it subtle, you dont want to come on too srong.
2007-02-12 15:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by ottomated420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a Ho
And Her Freind is a Little Snitch
But ye Girls Like men to be straight foward not shy so dont do that again. You Still might have a chance maybe try somthing other then Dinner try going out to a party with freinds like were i Live Abyss is close Awsome Club....Valentines Day ye i wouldnt suggest asking if u can study with her or keep asking her what she doing everyday cause then shes ganna feel like ur stalking her and girls dunt like that just ask her once and she MIGHT come to you lol
2007-02-12 16:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by DJuice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give a gap and space in every thing. Imagine how you would have looked if GOD had made you continuous??? Dont meet so often that you will become an ordinary from someone special. Dont make urself easily accesible to anyone as more the accessible you are more less important you become. Tell me why celebrities get so much importance ........... ? bcause they are away from reach and they have left their sweet performances for which people want to meet them but cannot meet them actually. so u become a celebrity for her
2007-02-14 20:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by Pankaj B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes upset that you are with other girls too. Some girls are just like that, they want to be exclusive even after one date. She wants your attention and is prob jealous of how many girls you have been with. If you really like her, talk to her about it and tell her that you like her
2007-02-12 15:58:03 · answer #7 · answered by Nichole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give her some time so she can start missing you.
2007-02-12 15:57:11 · answer #8 · answered by lyn4tik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, arn't you mr smooth asking her friend if you should ask her out again.
i'd say you are a jerk. but she may not.....
keep the friends out of it!!!
2007-02-12 15:57:11 · answer #9 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmmmmmmmooooooooooooo! What would a cow do?
2007-02-12 15:57:55 · answer #10 · answered by Ali 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋