Ok over the weekend she tells me she loves me more than anything but its not enough to keep her hanging on in a long distance relationship. Then two hours later tell me she changed her mind and can wait till aug when I'm closer. But tonight she tells me she cant take not being near me anymore so she ended it for good. I mean why didnt she just stick with it over the weekend and left me alone without giving me hope. What is going on with her? Why is she so confusing? What should I do?
2007-02-12 15:48:09 · 6 answers · asked by spayhappy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on...
2007-02-12 15:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A long distance relationship is a lot of work, I'm in one so I should know. You can't be with that person, so it's hard. For me and my boyfriend it's not that hard though. We love each other, and our goal is to be together. I would wait forever for us to be close, he's in my heart and mind everyday so I don't think or dwell on us not being able to be together for certain things. Talking on the phone with him every day is good enough. Of course I would love to see him and hold his hand and do everything people in love do, but that time will come. Until then, what we have now is more than enough. Your heart has to be in it, if you're girlfriend's heart isn't it, no matter what she says, she would do anything for you two to be together. The distance shouldn't cause strain on your relationship or make her rethink the situation. That's not love. Love knows no boundaries. It's better now that you know. She's not the one for you, and now you can move on and start looking for the right girl honey. Maybe she just got scared. That happends sometimes. I get scared, but I never want to be without him or even think about breaking up with him. So you're girlfriend is pretty confusing. She was probably regretting what she said, but then figured it was best and she couldn't handle not seeing you. She's putting you through the ring around for no reason. So start a new life without her. DON'T get into a long distance relationship unless you're mature enough to handle it, and make sure that the person you're in it with is also mature enough for it and is willing to be in it til' the end. That's the only way love works. Any other way isn't love and it's not worth your time. Good luck sweetie, I wish you the very best!
2007-02-12 23:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the world of long distance relationships.
It puts a strain on the both of you.
She probably is confused she feels she loves you or has feelings for you but not being able to be with you makes it tough for her.
She wants you in her life but can't wait for it either, maybe because she isn't getting any younger or maybe she found someone else closer?
Or maybe it scares her thinking that she will be meeting a guy she has been chatting with for a while and i'm sure she has heard the horror stories about online dating.
So just think of it in her eyes as well..
Would you be afraid to meet a guy or be with a guy you met online after hearing about deaths related to online relationships?
There isn't anything you can do but try to be her friend and show her the respect she deserves who knows maybe if things calm down they could work out again.
2007-02-12 23:54:32 · answer #3 · answered by Scott 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to say bye bye. What is wrong with you to put up with that type of behavior. She sounds like a giggly little school girl. Stop playing the game and move on. Let her play with someone else.
2007-02-12 23:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your confused, and ask her to explain what is going on.... she sounds confused... make her see things your way. Lead.
2007-02-12 23:52:37 · answer #5 · answered by Channel T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she must've asked out someone who lives close to her and was waiting for his answer, before making final decisions with you.
2007-02-12 23:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋