Since my mate of 42 years has passed away?

Question

I now choose to dress in all black am i daft or morbid all answers no matter how insulting will be grateful

Answer 1

c`mon colin,
would yer mate want you to do that,
think of the good times when you had a laugh together

Answer 2

The way a person mourns the loss of a loved one is very personal. If anyone answering this gives you an insulting answer, ignore it. Dressing in black is the way you are dealing with this horrific loss. There is nothing wrong with that as long as it doesn't go on for ever. If you were not the type to dress in dark clothing, then dressing like that for a prolonged period of time won't be normal for you. Being daft or morbid does not in any way come into this answer and if anyone tells you it does, ignore them too!
As I said, mourning any loss is very personal. There are specific stages of grief that must be gone through in order for you to get closure and go on with your life, no matter how difficult that must seem right now. There are many many websites on-line to help you right now. Talking to a professional grief councillor, or any councillor would probably be beneficial if you feel up to it.
I wish I could do something to help you through this horrible time in your life, as most people do. What I can do is pray for you, and answer this question honestly and compassionately.
God Bless you in this time of grief.

Answer 3

You are neither daft or morbid you are grieving for your partner, when you have been with someone for 42 years you are going to be totally lost for a long time. Good luck to you hope you can find peace of mind.

Answer 4

Nothing wrong with marking your mourning - you obviously lost someone who meant a great deal to you. I don't think you daft or morbid just a very caring friend.

Answer 5

no colin u not morbid or daft you choose 2 mourn in your way good luck 2 you it will get easier time is the best healer

Answer 6

No, it is fine if that is what you prefer. Perhaps, eventually you will want other colors, if you don't that is fine too. It is a personal choice. The Mennonites and Amish all wear black and it isn't sinister. Johnny Cash wore black and it was fine. Black is actually a nice color. It might make you feel better and that is good too. Lord bless you. Sorry for the lost of your mate. It must be hard..

Answer 7

Boy, that's tough. I doubt you're daft or morbid, just depressed and lost. I just pray I never have to walk in your shoes. I am very certain my bride of 37 years will WAY outlive me, so, thankfully/hopefully, I will never have to experience your pain. You'll be in my prayers.

Answer 8

It depends how long you let your mourning to go on for. I think your loved one that passed would want you to enjoy your life and years you have left and stop longing for her/him. It's right to show them the proper respect for their memory but no one would want you to never laugh again or enjoy the beauty of the world around you. Mourn as long as you need to. Do special things in their memory like a bench or a tree in your favourite park. You will never forget them.

Answer 9

This is a transitional period in your life, and wearing black is a way of dealing with your grief. Feeling sad for your loss is nothing to be ashamed of, but please don;t shut people out who love and care for you, like your family and friends who want to help you. Talk about your feelings with them and in time you will adjust to your new circumstances...

Take care.

Answer 10

Do you feel comfortable in black? If so, then wear black, you don't have to explain to anyone.
"It's the new skinny look" or "My new style, you can't go wrong with black" If it is for attention, or empathy with your grief, you will find people will generally shy away from you. No one wants to grieve with you, lonely as it is,...it is a private journey.