I'm 19 years old and in college. I'm currently a virgin and I intend to die that way (no, I don't want to die anytime soon, just making a point). I hear all this hype about how great sex is and I want to know if it's really overrated. From my perspective, sex is a filthy, animalistic act and I do not intend to ever engage in it (if others want to, that's fine by me, as long as it doesn't involve me).
2007-02-12 15:34:24 · 24 answers · asked by Steady As She Goes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I've had wet dreams (due to my refusal to masturbate). I felt dirty every time I woke up afterwards (both emotionally and physically). The wet dreams, however, are never attached to erotic dreams; once I drempt that I was in a bike race and I randomly began having an orgasm.
2007-02-12 15:41:38 · update #1
sex itself is not an animalistic act but society makes is look that way....
it is a way for a couple to share the most intimate parts of themselves when they are in a commited relationship and have children....
however, it's so common and abused now that many people now find it disgusting...
if you don't want to have sex at this point...then don't...it's not a big deal at all...there is much more to life than sex....
...but it will be a different thing when you are in a serious relationship and decide you wanna get married...because sex is the most intimate way of expressing your emotions to your mate....
but from what you say you don't seem to be in a hurry to be married or have a committed relationship....so then just CHILL!...relAX!!..don't let others pressure you into doing something that you don't want to...ENjoy life!!..and when it's the right time you'll understand why people like sex
(if you think about it, it makes sense...as humans it's our number one desire to feel loved and desired and sex is the most passionate and intimate way of having that feeling...that's why people enjoy it...but some just glorify it so much and do it so often with different ppl that they lose the meaning behind it, and that's when it becomes a meaningless animalistic act)
2007-02-12 15:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by Fatal intoxication 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different, and some enjoy sex more then others. I love sex, cuz it's with same person evertytime I do it, Ilove him and what better way then sex. I been with my man 5 years, I just don't have sex with random men. I feel you haven't been in love yet, cuz if u have you, probably would have do it before,and feel how you feel about that person I need so express to them how u feel, yes there's other things besides sex, but when u are inlove u wanna see how it is with sumone u love. That's beauitful that u are a virgin, and I hope when u have sex with sum one u love, cuz if u don't care 4 the person u'll neva know what it's like.
2007-02-12 23:44:30 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that way, then why are you asking? Do you think having an orgasm is filthy? Have you had one? I am not being mean, but rational. If you have not had an orgasm, then you will never know. And you will never understand that is like to share with someone else. That is what is great about it. Society makes us feel guilty about sex and that it is dirty, yet everyone does it (not a cliche). SO what does that say about society?
2007-02-12 23:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by C. A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sex is natural in a loving relationship. it may not be great all the time, but sharing that intimate part of yourself is a gift of love to your partner. if you feel think is filthy and animalistic, maybe you should reflect inward to see what has happened in your life to make you have that attitude. i would suggest maybe seeking the help of a therapist. good luck.
2007-02-12 23:46:44 · answer #4 · answered by debijean 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm 18 and i recently lost my virginity...and sex is only lame if the person who's pleasing you is lame...basically it is overrated until you really want it-- then it can be a big stress reliever...you must remember there MUST be passion when having sex...without passion it fells a thousand times less exciting
2007-02-12 23:39:24 · answer #5 · answered by CoCo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right sex is not an important to cherish in a relationship. In a relationship it should just be how u truly care for the person and not just looking and doing things to their body. A relationship should be based on truly caring about the person and showing them respect.
2007-02-12 23:44:28 · answer #6 · answered by blah blah blah! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If anyone still has to ask what the big deal with sex it - they haven't found the right partner to do it with. Yea sex can be plain, boring and very over-rated... but with the correct partner, sex can also be mind-blowing, earth-shattering, life-altering etc...
My point is, if sex doesn't absolutely drive you crazy... get a new partner!
2007-02-12 23:42:51 · answer #7 · answered by Aneska G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day, sweetie, you will meet a young lady who will knock you off your feet. You will be weak in the knees and weak in the head. It will be a feeling like you have never felt before. You, my dear, will be in love. The physical act of love is a natural progression of being in love. It is not filthy, especially when you are in love with your partner. One day, you will understand, and I wish you would post a note for me and say "hey, Rita, you were right!" In the meantime, I wish you all the best. Stay sweet.
2007-02-12 23:42:29 · answer #8 · answered by Rita 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex is actually a natural act.
We are here to pro-create.
I think your ideas on sex when you have never even engaged in the act are un-informed.
Were you abused as a child maybe cos that's all i can think of that would make you feel that way.
2007-02-12 23:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are quite a lot of people who don't much care for sex (usually women, I believe).
The only diffiiculty is that the closest adult relationships tend to be sex based, and you may find yourself quite lonely in later life.
2007-02-13 17:52:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋