help me please!! how to choose between 2 girls ? - im 26 male?

Question

im soo confuse..dunno what is happening

A-24 y.o=my girlfriend since 8 yrs ago, ; hot tempered n always mad at me, expect me to be perfect, put all her problems to me, nag all the time, hurt my feeling everytime, always fight, ego, always abuse me emotionally, i dont think she respect me, dominant.
however; she is matured, confident, treat me good when she's in the mood, firm,love me.

B- 23y.o=another girl who comes to my life 3 mnths ago; bit childish-always cheerfully like a little girl, not firm in decision,
however, she seems to really understands me, accept me as i am, charming, cute, modest-but sometimes too humble, softhearted, love me,

i love them both,
i know i cant live with A as my wife, but i have so much beautiful memories with her, and i still love her.

should i continue with A although im hurt everyday and she become a queen ctrl?
or try new relation? what if im really miss my ex? would the feeling fade away with respect to time?

please help me

Answer 1

Based on the way you describe these two, you obviously see at least a possibility of a future with B and no future, just a bunch of memories with A. So of course, if that is true, if there's no future with A you need to get out of that relationship. Even if B wasn't in your life right now, shouldn't you get out of a relationship that's become a dead end? So I think the only fair way to analyze this is to focus on A. If you think you guys really may work things out with her, then you should try it, because you owe it to her, you've been together for so long. But if there's no chance of you working out, then you need to cut your losses. Only after you figure out your A situation can you approach B. Because otherwise, if you were just tired of the old girl and want to see if the grass is greener on the other side, that wouldn't say much about you, would it? Do you really want to be a cheat and mess around on A to try things out with B and then find out that it doesn't work and come back to A? No, brother, that's not the way to go. Figure things out with A as if B wasn't in the picture. Decide if you have a future and the rest will fall into place. Hope this helps. Take care.

Answer 2

I have had a similar experience. Love is really never the question. Ultimately you are responsible for your own happiness but being with someone that brings out the best in you feels so good. You will wake up everyday and really want to make that other person happy because the like who you really are. No more avoidance just pure passion of the mind, sole and body.

My suggestion would be to communicate with A and be honest with how she makes you feel. You will know what you need to do after a few of these confrontations. I say confrontation because that is how it is going to feel. Just be honest.

The bubble can be very hard to burst once you make your decision. All your friends will be biased in what you should do. You will miss your Ex until you find someone else. It will be tough but get easier as time passes. This can not be avoided.

I think you know what you need to do and it has nothing to do with option B. There is an option C out there you have not discovered. Someday you will thank yourself.
YeS

Answer 3

Memories are just that its reality you need to get in touch with, you have had good times together but it seems the overall feeling is a negative one I wouldn't hold on to the past in hopes it will return. But you also will need time to heal so don't go jumping into another relationship right away or you could be in for a big mess and a whole lot of hurt feelings (for all 3 of you).

Answer 4

Go with the won you have know longer...
Guys like food so I will put it this way:

You have the meatball sub that youve had for a super long time. you love it and its calling your name. it has always been there for you and you might end up disapointed if you choose something else. Well you want turkey all of the sudden! She has a delicious taste, but you will start to get tired of it and want Meatball.

Answer 5

if your not happy no more vwith A then why not try something new. B sounds nice and hay you never know. I guess what I am trying to say is mabey it's time for a change........