Hi. I got married in Egypt last year. It became apparent he married me for visa to USA. but prior to my realization, i got pregnant and made a petition for him to come to usa on immigration visa. currently i am in the usa, had the baby and withdrew the petition but the us consulate in cairo has yet to return his passports. He is threatening me via internet to put me in jail and take my child and other things. He is demanding the birth certificate and he will grant me a divorce.He seems to care more about the papers than the child. I just want to end this. How can u amicably separate from one who saw used marriage as a tool for travel? Are there any agencies that can help me? I have tried to call immigration and DOS but no one knows where to send me.
2007-02-12 14:53:49 · 12 answers · asked by C B 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Immigration
no money for lawyer...he said i will know in time why i am in jail...the threat comes up when i told him i will not name the baby his name but rather my name, and i will not send certificate.so maybe he thinks he can put me in jail for that. but he is still fishing for visa elsewhere. i got a heads up that he had been chatting alot after i came back to usa. so i sent him a message with a different name.he thoght i was a woman in usa. he was flirty and the subject of visa came up and travel (uickly) he said flatly that he has the petition, he doesnt neeed the wife, just a sponsor.he also denied having a child too. that solidified it even more for me. i am in the middle of writing my detailed list of clues and such as well as the abuse and neglect of us while in egypt. its really not pretty.
2007-02-12 16:00:23 · update #1
one more thing...i guess i just want to do what is best for my child too. and it just daawned on me as i wrote a sappy sentence about giving his family a chance to have relationship etc with the boy...its not happening. he nearly destroyed my life. i came back with 20 bucks in my pocket because his plan was to make me see life as so hard there that i would beg him to come to the usa. only an animal could do that. thanks for the answers.
2007-02-12 16:08:27 · update #2
Get a lawyer and file for divorce or annulment . That man has no rights to your child,do not send him any papers what so ever and get a restraining order and save all his emails and correspondence and tape his phone calls if he makes any and show your lawyer.
Middle Eastern men do not respect woman..that is a common well known fact,which I am sure you are well aware of by now.
2007-02-12 14:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, I don't know what he could send you to jail for and under no circumstance should you send him the copy of your child's birth certificate. Talk to both a divorce lawyer and an immigration lawyer. Make sure you tell the lawyers everything detailing that you believe he married you to obtain a visa.
2007-02-12 15:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't "amicably" separate from a violent nut case.
He can't come here without a visa and you are no longer his sponsor.
You can divorce him without him being present. Get an attorney and do it. Don't send him anything to do with the child.
Women have no rights in the Islamic world, tell him the USA isn't part of the Islamic world. You've got rights here, use them.
2007-02-12 15:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by Yak Rider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know I'd go the way of trying to have his Visa revoked and have the marriage annulled instead. Pursue all and any avenues to prevent divorce because he will use this as a means to further abuse you . also have you've been saving all the e-mails and such that will prove your case, most agencies, lawyers, what have you, like to have any and all evidence ready at the front of the case as well as providing a time line to coincide with your facts ad evidence.
2007-02-12 15:02:28 · answer #4 · answered by firecracker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is in Egypt - Make sure he cannot reach you from there (No friends or better doesnt know your address).
1. You did well by withdrawing the petition.
2. Child is yours and only, that doesnt entitle him to anything. (e.g. visa or what).
3. Dont listen to threats - he cannot do anything, Dont lesten to pleas - he will be trying to appeal to you to be "Humane".
4. Go to USCIS (Infopass appointment on www.uscis.gov). Make sure that they will put him on some "blacklis" so he canot get any visa to US. Marriage fraud is a crime - with lifelong ban on entering US. Even if you were deceived that it was a real marriage, since he only wanted visa, it is considered fraud. Explain to USCIS his threats and life threats as well.
They might guide you on something - I really hope they will.
2007-02-12 16:08:02 · answer #5 · answered by type2negative 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in the USA and he is in Egypt. You withdrew the petition so he cannot come to the country with the marriage papers. Why is he going to take you to jail?
Talk to a lawyer and have proof of his messages, phone calls, whatever.
Call the US consulate in Cairo and ask what's going on?
2007-02-12 15:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by rocio 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might try looking for a good immigration attorney. My first place to call would be immigration to report him as having ulterior motives and manipulating you. Actually marrying you under false pretenses. This could get expensive with a child involved. Good luck.
2007-02-12 15:02:22 · answer #7 · answered by dino 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to contact the State Department Passport Division, and contact ICE. However, if you get divorced within two years it is a prima facia case for marriage fraud.
2007-02-12 16:11:24 · answer #8 · answered by Migra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no answer to your question, sorry =[ but I do have something to say. Don't generalize everybody to be like that, I know you haven't said anything but the answerers have. Just because one has done it doesn't mean all. That gets me upset, not everybody in a race or ethnicity group is the same, there is everything in everybody.
2007-02-12 16:02:15 · answer #9 · answered by Kunggpao 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get a lawyer who specialises in immigration law.
2007-02-12 15:24:52 · answer #10 · answered by Venin_Noir 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋