my dad can't do much around the house, I dont want to skip out on them what should I do??
2007-02-12 14:37:58 · 9 answers · asked by ANDREW B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Is your mum still alive? I think they probably raised you to be independent eventually so you can still leave home.
Your dad will more than likely have therapy he'll have to do and meds to take and he and your mum are probably capable of handling those things.
Even if you are out of the house it doesn't mean you'll never be back for visits . You can check in on them if you're not in the same city once a week by phone or daily if they have email and know how to use it .
Maybe if you're close by you can help out once in awhile and spell your mum off by making or bringing a meal over to them.
Be encouraging to your dad , don't give him those long worried looks, he's probably worried and scared enough for all of you.
Heart attacks are scary things but there's alot more help and medications and assistive devices available now to help your dad live a long and somewhat healthier life.
2007-02-12 14:48:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you've lived at home until you're 26, I wonder why you're choosing this time to move out, when your dad is vulnerable? There are a few things you might think about:
1. Right now in the short-term, be as helpful as you can. Take care of things around the house, drive your dad to/from his follow up appointments, cook healthy, low-fat meals, keep him company.
2. When your dad is getting stronger and seems like he's on the way to full recovery, you can let him know that you're setting a timetable to move out. Give him some notice.
3. Don't move far away. Be close enough that you can get to your dad's place within 15 minutes at the most if he needs something. Then, call and/or stop by every day, depending on his preference.
Good luck, and God bless you and your dad. Your mum, too, if she's still here.
2007-02-12 15:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by meatpiemum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say as long as you don't move to far away. So you can be close and help out if they need you then go ahead and move out. I bought the house Across the road from my grandparents so I could be close yet on my own. It works out good cause I don't need to drive to see them or help and I go there just about every morning for coffee and breakfast with them before I take off. And I can find out what they need done or have planned for the day with out acting like A over protective worry wart of a Grandson. Also my dad and step mom live behind them and up a side road so a quick hike through a field and I'm there if he needs help or anything. My mom lives a mile down the road and my sis four so we are all close yet on our own. I'm not saying you have to stay as close as we do but anywhere in a twenty mile radius ought to be good enough. PS my Granddad had a quadruple bipass and my Father and I both have pacemaker diffibulators for a very rare very serious heart disease that put us at risk for sudden cardiac death. So believe me when I say heart problems really limit you and with out family none of us would be able to handle it all. And I am very Glad You Have the Loyalty Love and Respect and Selflessness to stay close and worry for your Father. Good Luck and Best Wishes.
2007-02-12 14:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by Vinny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you really need to be there for your dad. he is going through a real rough time in his life right now. the less stress that your dad has to go through the better off he is going to be. i know it is rough but my philosophy is this "we come into this world as a child and we leave this world as a child." this means that when we start out, we can't walk, talk, or understand what is going on around us. as we get older and go through life, we learn how to do all of these things and so much more. as we reach seniorhood, our bodies are old and worn out, resulting in a slow or sometimes fast decrease in the things that we can do eventually where we have to rely on people just like we did when we were children." it is important that you be there for him. he really needs you now more than ever. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-12 15:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay with him and help him. Especially help him with his diet and exercise if you want him around for a while. I would give my left nut to hang out with my dad more. He had a heart attack and died suddenly at 62.
2007-02-12 14:43:52 · answer #5 · answered by Ralphie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're a man, aren't you? If so, you should be man enough to look after someone who probably supported you your entire life. Life is all about sacrifices, but apparently, you are not mature enough to realize that (despite being 26 years old). I hope that when I have kids, they don't turn out to be half as selfish as you.
2007-02-12 14:41:42 · answer #6 · answered by Need2Answer?s 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your parents took care of you. Now its your turn to take care of them. But dont let it take over your whole life. be there for them, but have a life of your own as well. You didnt say if you were planning to move far a way . . .
2007-02-12 14:42:27 · answer #7 · answered by Runa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can move out but you should hire a nurse and visit him on a daily basis.Even if you move out don't leave him alone it will hurt him. If you leave he can pass away and you won't even be there and you will feel guilty for the rest of your life.Don't make that mistake.
2007-02-12 14:43:36 · answer #8 · answered by ♥JESUS IS MY SAVIOR ♥ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have every right to want to live on your own. get your own place and stop in at your dad's every day or two to see if he needs help with something.
2007-02-12 14:43:18 · answer #9 · answered by honeybear 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋