i;m having this problem with my bf every time we have sex he wants to have anal sex, but i keep pushing him away im scared that it will rip because it very tight, and Feces might come out what should i do to help overcome this fear?
2007-02-12 14:29:29 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The real question is whether you want to have anal sex. If you don't then that is your right and he should respect your decision. If you do want to do it and want help overcoming any anxiety that you have then the solution is to practice relaxing your rectal muscles. Use lube and have him insert one finger while he stimulates you vaginally, use your imagination alright. While his finger is inserted clench down on it as tight as you can and then consciously relax your muscles around his finger. Then clench down again and relax. After a little while, you should be starting to get off on the other things he's doing, have him insert a second finger and begin to work it gently back and forth. Clench down and relax on both his fingers. If he can bring you to a climax while doing this, he's going down on you okay, you should be really relaxed and receptive. You might not even want to go any further the first time you try this but when you do just remember to take it slow and easy. Use lube, relax and enjoy the sensation. If you don't want to do this then you'll never be able to enjoy it so better not to even try. If you do want to do this then it can be very pleasurable for a woman. Just remember that you are the one who is in charge. Have fun with whatever you decide and good luck.
2007-02-12 16:28:50 · answer #1 · answered by Barb S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NEVER let a b/friend Pressure you into sex let alone anal sex*.........If you do not want it* He needs to understand that!!!!!! Ask HIM if he wants you to stick something up his butt*??so he can feel what it's like cuz you're not having any part of it~! And YES you can be "ripped" and yes "feces" may come out* ........and also you can get Sexually transmitted diseases*......YOU need to stand your ground and tell him that's something YOU"RE not wanting to do. End of conversation to him about it! If he don't like it.......tell him "There's the door, don't let it hit you on the way out*~"
If he loves you and respects you......he will never bring the subject up again*~
2007-02-12 14:33:26 · answer #2 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-03-29 04:15:05 · answer #3 · answered by Chelsea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things one, tell him if you choose to allow him to do that you will do it when you feel comfortable and you being comfortable isn't gonig to start with him being pushy. Second yes there is a possiblity of getting hurt but with a caring gentle person that is much less likly. If you choose to do this feces may get on that person (its kinda natural) you will need a good lube and need to ease into it, start with something small like a finger. Also talk to your OBGYN about it.
2007-02-12 14:34:11 · answer #4 · answered by Jenna24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that no good bf shd force you to do anything you are uncomfortable with. And you must communicate with him and tell him how you feel.
He should respect you and listen to you, ok?
However, if you want to try anal sex yourself, you need to trust that your man is not going to rip you apart with his d***. Try some lubricating gel so that it will not hurt that much. It will be painful if he tries to penetrate fully for the first time,... you may want to ask him to try bit by bit. : )
Good luck!
2007-02-12 14:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The primary issue to focus on is how you feel about it. If you are not okay with it, then continue to say no. If he is any sort of man, he will accept that. As far as the act of having anal sex, talk to your doctor. There may be health risks associated with the act of it.
2007-02-12 14:33:02 · answer #6 · answered by moonsmamma 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to go into the logistics of having anal sex. That is something you can easily look up online. But, I will say that if you keep saying no and he keeps persisting, he's not respecting your decision. That would be a red flag to me. If you don't want to do it, you don't have to.
2007-02-12 14:31:51 · answer #7 · answered by CC 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dial 1-800-new-beau.
2007-02-12 14:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by Rudy R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop it. You know the problem with ppl now the days? They let their bf/gf control them. lets try to make a difference by not being like that.
2007-02-12 14:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by Produh G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him its an exit only area J/K tell him your not ready to go anal yet if he cares bout you he'll understand
2007-02-12 14:33:11 · answer #10 · answered by Heya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋