Parents of more than one child...?

Question

Do any of you have favorites? Do you prefer one or more of your children to the other(s)? Do you think this is right?

Answer 1

I have 3 and like melissa we have the running joke of telling them they are the favourite.my youngest at 14 tried to get round this by calling himself the star child LOLfor xmas this year my daughter give him a badge with "Superstar"on it.
I don't think I have a favorite,though sometimes when the attention is more on one,the other two will let me know about it,but soemtimes one needs more time than the others, and they each get a turn and what they need from me I hope.One thing I am very fortuante in is that they are all or have been very affectionate.the 15year old boy has suddenly stopped being cuddly and hopefully he will coome back to it,my eldest did and at 19 won't go a day without a hug,either will my daughter.If I forget they come to me:)
It's one thing I've been very concious of actually as In my own family my middle sister was the favourite and over the years especially as an adult it is obvious to everyone,not just my other sister and I.
If you show unconditional love for all your children I don't believe you will ever have a problem.

Answer 2

I have 3. When they were small I did my best to love them all the same and did NOT show favorites. They all had their own interests and I encouraged them all to do their best with those interests.
The oldest; a boy, is now a father of 3 girls (twins - not his- and they youngest is his). He loves them all but he does favor his daughter more than the others (the twins have been around him since they were 10 months old - he's the only one they know as dad). Knowing this, it has often be difficult for me NOT to show any favoritism but I'm getting better at it. He lives within minutes of me so I see him a lot and I do a lot with the girls.
My middle child; a girl, is now a mother of one girl (who's extremely spoiled). I visit as often as I can (she lives out-of-state) but I have a difficult time loving the child because of her being such a 'spoiled brat'.
My youngest; a boy, has no family - just a girl friend and a dog. She can't have kids - so I don't expect any children from him. He also lives out-of-state so I don't see a whole lot of him because, for some reason, just will not put forth the effort to visit me unless it's a 'family emergency'.
I still love all three but now I seem to focus more on the grand daughters and 'building memories' with them.

Answer 3

I'm the mom of 2 darling daughters. I don't love one more than the other. But I do love them in there own unique way. I've learned their unique and wonderful personalities. My oldest just loves to be loved, smothered with attention. She'll run up and throw her arms around my neck and say "I love you big as the world" and I say "bigger than the world". My youngest on the other hand is the type of child, that she loves you and will show that love in her own time. When you least expect it she'll be walking by you, and stop and give you a quick peck on the cheek. Or she rather you sit on the floor and play with toys(she's 2)with her. But in her own way she lets you know, I love you too. I think a lot of parents need to stand back and assess what each child needs. Because it is hard to love someone, if you don't take the time to really know them. Why should your kids be any different?

Answer 4

I am a mum to 3. I value one or other of my children at different times according to their personalities. One is very outgoing, another very sensitive, one is very intelligent. I don't think any parent will constantly show a preference to one child over another, but at times it may be easier to relate to one child because of the parent's own life experiences.

Answer 5

I do not have a favorite. I do not think there is any way on the planet that acknowledging it around your kids could be right. I think it is very very damaging to a child's self-esteem - both the favored child's and the less favored. That's the food for decades of sibling rivalry.

My children are almost 5 years apart in age. At different time and at different stages, one's needs are more closely matched to my strengths and I may find one more challenging and the other less. However,this has always switched back and forth.

I think they are both amazing, wonderful, incredible people whom I'm thrilled to know.

I wonder if any mom who has nursed her children could have favorites.

Answer 6

No, definitely not. I love both my children the same amount. I can't imagine showing any favoritism towards either one. I think that doing that would create a lot of resentment between siblings.

Answer 7

That is a really hard question to answer. I have 5 kids. I love each and everyone of them in different ways. I can't say that I have favorites.

Answer 8

i have five children, i tell each that they are my favorite, it's kind of a running joke, but it's because it is true, they are so unique each has such special qualities that i love the best, so all my children are my favorite, and well they should be

Answer 9

well i am not a parent of multiples but my husband was a twinand i asked his mom if she every favored one over the other and she said no how can you when they are alike and different in so many ways it makes you like them eachi ndivuald

Answer 10

I love them all the same amount. They are all different and have differents strengths and weakneses. I love them each differently too. It's not loveing one more than the other. It's just that they are so different.