I've been with my b/f 4 2 months now. It's been gr8 so far. I luv spending time with him, he calls & txts several times a day, at 1st we spoke about our feelings & was very affectionate, then last week when we was out 4 his b-day, he said 'I think I'm falling in luv with you', 2 which I responded with a kiss and then changed the subject even tho I feel the same. I didn't know how to handle it. I'm not sure if he meant it, but since then I've felt guilty for not responding so I've tried to tell him in other ways by sayin how much I'M into HIM-maybe a bit too much?!? Anyhow, he seems to have withdrew & doesn't seem to respond to my xpressions of how I feel with the same enthusiasm as b4. I'm a lil insecure about this, so I've told him str8. He seems sympathetic & concerned, but I feel like I've showed 2 much emotion now & I feel vulnerable. It feels I'm losing him but I can't figure Y? Surely he knows that I've fallen for him. Do u think his feelings have changed? Why is he different?
2007-02-12 14:03:43 · 8 answers · asked by Miss305 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow the answers are great so far thanks for everyone's response!!!!
I'm really into this guy- it's not just a 2 month thing, and BAM we're in love. He's my best friend's brother and I've known him for a long time. I think maybe the problem is that when we first got together, I was really strong and stood my ground with him which he isn't so used to, but as time's gone on, I find that the more I feel for him, the weaker I get and the less I care to be so assertive. I just wanna be with him-care for him, give him attention and affection-without having to always seem so strong. He was attracted to that part of me!
He does like the sentimental things. Just less lately. I wrote and recorded a song for his b-day which isn't finished but I've showed him....he's very keen to hear the rest of it. So he's not shy or embarassed of my emotions, just lately he seems to be backing off a little. And part of me thinks that maybe it's just fizzling out on his part. I don't know....I'm so confused :(
2007-02-12 14:39:45 · update #1
I am not a guy...but just wanted to share. I would say, don't worry. Be with him. Stay beside him. Don't ditch him. But give him his space also. Slowly and gradually....he will know u do love him. If you feel you have showed too much emotion, then take a step back, and be his friend. If you feel he doesn't think you really love him back, then perhaps u need to gradually let him know u do love him. Show patience. Show that u have a level head and u truly care for him. If he is open to talking, sit with him, and share your concerns....dont pressure him to talk, but see if he is willing to share. It looks like both of you like each other so much.....don't let a misunderstanding ruin it....
Hope it all works out. Just be patient...
2007-02-12 14:16:01 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Infatuation usually lasts 3-4 months. You've been dating him for 60 days, so it's possible it's only infatuation, not real, true love. Stop trying to show him how you feel and be cool. He'll either start pursing you again, or he won't. But at least you're not 1-bugging him and 2-being vulnerable with someone who may not really care.
2007-02-12 14:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, i think he is unsure about how you feel now. he has came out and told you that he loves you and you just changed the subject, now you have broken his heart...here he is madley in love with you and he wants you to know that and you just brush it off like a bug. its not going to be easy to fix this...you just need to sit down and ask him whats bothering him. tell how you feel honestly and explain to him about that night. That you weren't sure how to react...that you felt the same way for him but you just weren't sure how to express then...but now that you have thought on it that you feel you should have told him right then and there that you felt the same way...but he has to understand that we musn't linger on the past...we can't change what we did, but can only try to fix the future before we loose each other. try that with him and see how he takes it. If he doesn't agree than he just isn't meant for you. if he truely loves you he will understand and charish that you feel that way and know that at sometime he has probley felt the same way. I hope that you repair your love and it Blooms Beautifully....If not then know there is always someone out there who love and understand you for Who you Truely are...I hope this helps you. Please feel free to email me anytime if you would like more advice. i am always looking to meet new friends.
2007-02-12 14:18:32 · answer #3 · answered by scorch572004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has been hurt before, and maybe he expressed his emotions before hand, you know like sometimes we think something and it comes out of our mouth without us even knowing it, and men look at saying our feelings as a moment of weakness, which is in my opinion not good
2007-02-12 14:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by MinO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its only been two months. If he is really In love with you then he should understand and give you time to realize your own feelings. If he can't then he's in this relationship for something else.
2007-02-12 14:09:12 · answer #5 · answered by dolphinnut798 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason y he is withdrawing from is you didnt say i love you too. i know guys dont catch on to things quickly, but your bf does not seem like a normal guy because he said i love you so quickly.that shows that he is a sensitive guy and he wanted you to say it back.
2007-02-12 14:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by craig P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems he is serious in establishing relationship but long terms. That is the reason he is slow & wish to enjoy every moment. So be slow.
2007-02-12 14:09:26 · answer #7 · answered by P S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think his feelings changed the best thing u can do is to talk to him and ask him ..........sorry if this is bad advise im a guy
2007-02-12 14:11:45 · answer #8 · answered by swamp606887 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋