My closest friends are single...and very bitter about it. They've been single for years and begrudge anyone who has a boyfriend. Both have scrutinized me in the past when I've had boyfriends and spent less time with them, yet when they started dating, they did the same to me (and after I realized my mistake the first time, I began making more of an effort to see them but I was still attacked).
Now, I'm getting married, and I don't feel comfortable talking to either of them about my plans. I feel alone. This should be a happy time for me but they are making it difficult. They've said that they feel left out and they want to get married, and I comfort them and say it will happen and it's not the only important thing in life.
But why should I be made to feel guilty? They are the reasons I'm not have any bridesmaids.
2007-02-12 13:51:13 · 8 answers · asked by Galoshes 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They are lonely and have given up that's why.
2007-02-12 13:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry that you do not have better friends.
friends (in theory) are supposed to support you, give serious advice as to your happiness, be there to listen, comfort you when you are sad, help you to laugh when you don't feel like laughing, and rejoice for you when you have found happiness.
forgive me if i seem rude, but these gals don't fit the bill. ya know?
there are just some people in this world that are never happy and they will drag you down if you let them.
honey, there is a reason why they can't get a man--its cause they are bitter old crows. if they truly want to be happy they will be---married or not.--i feel that from your description, they just don't want to be.
congrats on the wedding--don't let them drag you down--and get out there and enjoy your new life.
you deserve it!
2007-02-12 22:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey.. that's kindda tough on you. but you know what? everybody's got to be responsible for themselves and the way they feel. the last thing you'd want to be is to be unhappily married just because your friend makes you feel uncomfortable about it. you have to understand your limits too. you've done nothing wrong, and i think you've advised them the best way you can. they also have to make a decision whether they are going to change or not, but that's up to them, not you. so realize that you've done your part, and that you have to be proud of yourself for doing so. let them do their part now. i would also suggest you tell them about your plans, i believe they would be more bitter if you don't. a good way to help them change is to let them know you're not affected. you respect their opinion, but decide not to be affected. this way, they'll see and understand that probably the problem is in them and not in you, which is the truth in the first place. hope i helped.
2007-02-12 22:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by J.P. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till you've been married a few years and have screaming toddlers running around.Then YOU will be the one who is jealous of their freedom.
2007-02-12 21:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Then if all they can do is think about themselves when their best friend is getting married then they are not really your friends at all.
2007-02-12 21:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by dolphinnut798 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im single and it bothers me tht other people choose to have boyfreinds or girlfreinds and i choose not to have one because im sill aiting for the right one to come along and i get jelous that other people ca ust go for it. its normal
2007-02-12 21:55:41 · answer #6 · answered by dangel6667 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow sound like men haters already
grass is never greener on the other side
unless u smoke it like obom bom
2007-02-12 21:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They need to GROW UP!!!
2007-02-12 21:59:53 · answer #8 · answered by Jagger Otto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋