I bought my fiancee a Rhinestone wedding ring 6 months ago. The real thing (the one she wanted) at a local Jewelry store cost $3000. The one I bought her sold at a local park and swap for $15 and was labeled a Rhinestone and I didnt have the money. she does not know this and wants to get it appraised on Valentines day. What do i do?
2007-02-12 13:50:12 · 36 answers · asked by Dan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Good for you for only buying what you could afford! It IS the sentiment and symbolism which count! Why in the world would she be getting it appraised..? That seems to be a red flag about her character...
2007-02-12 22:38:02 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Funny! Dumb move. At some point you need to tell her, yes. To buy yourself more time do not do get it appraised on Valentine's but instead find something much more fun or romantic to do. Keep her mind off the ring. Do something to surprise her so she thinks it was your plan all along so it is not obvious you are avoiding the appraiser.
Also, do you think she might be on to you? Why all of the sudden does she want to get it appraised?
Anyhow, the local jewelery store is likely not the best place to buy a ring. Find a wholesaler. Research diamonds, you can likely find one more in your price range that is exactly what she wants. See, if she didnt notice the rhinestone was a rhinestone and not a diamond, you don't need to buy the highest quality diamond as she will never know. The beauty of buying a diamond from a wholesaler is that when you do eventually have to go with her to get it appraised, you will often times have it worth about 1.5 - 2.5 times more than you paid for it. But, be careful, you need to make sure you can take the ring back if she dumps your sorry *** for lying to her all this time!
2007-02-12 15:38:36 · answer #2 · answered by funkmagician 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!!!!!! This is big. You either tell her the truth before it happends and explain to her that you cant afford what she wants or YES you let her find out when she gets it appraised. What do you think she would Prefer? I would prefer the truth. Good Luck and tell her how you also feel about the price on the ring she really wants. Besides I think you should be the one to pick the ring you want for her not her telling you what to get her and what she wants. Why don't you go buy what you can afford a real one though and then say What you really would say when you give her the ring you want to give her and then explain it to her. Good Luck I hope she is a understanding person.
2007-02-12 17:21:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't tell the difference between a $15 ring and a $3000 ring? And why would you spend Valentine's Day getting a ring appraised? This story doesn't add up.
2007-02-12 13:54:14 · answer #4 · answered by Shellbell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that this has been said to you before, but you should have told her the truth, I know that dishing out 3,000 dollars is alot, but there are plenty of rings out there that are the real thing and that are affordable. They're not big but its the real thing. Just go ahead and tell her that at the time you didn't have the money and you didn't want to disappoint her. If you have the money now, then go out and buy her a ring, if not then just tell her that you PROMISE to get it for her soon. I honestly believe that the ring shouldn't matter, if you want to get married then you should do it with or without a ring.
2007-02-12 14:19:19 · answer #5 · answered by Lovely1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to fess up Dan - just explain to her that you wanted to make her happy but at the same time didn't have the money for the ring she wanted. Knowing full well that you should never have lied to her, if she loves you it won't matter. She won't be as upset about the cost of the ring as she is that you were dishonest with her. At least that would be my issue. If she wants a better ring, tell her in the future, when you can afford one, you'll get it for her. But again, at this point, you have to hope she's not angry that you lied.
2007-02-13 02:56:22 · answer #6 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you put in a rhinestone so the two of you can pick a diamond out together for valentines day and make sure she got what she wanted. then you better start saving and find a way to pay for it. Good luck.
2007-02-13 05:12:34 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say " honey before we get it appraised i want to tell u somethin. The truth is i didnt have enough money to buy the 3000 one u wanted so i had to go for somethin cheaper. I didnt mean to lie to you i just wanted you to be happy and i didnt want to break your heart by not buying what you wanted." Say Im sry and have makeup sex later that night. If she doesnt understand you couldnt afford it then tell her its not about how much it cost but the meaning of wearing a wedding ring.
2007-02-12 14:09:29 · answer #8 · answered by chika0284 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want to bet she already has a hunch it's a cheap fake. You don't have to be jeweler to know a cheap piece sh-- from the real thing. I hope she's making you twist in the wind! You deserve it! Tell her the truth and tell her you'd like to take Valentine's Day to help her pick out a ring she likes that you can afford that more appropriately reflects your love for her. And then you better hope like heck that she forgives you and agrees to stay engaged to you.
2007-02-12 15:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by Yo' Mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE SCREWED!!!! My biggest pet peeve is lying. You shouldn't have lied to her. Lying only comes back to haunt you. You should have been honest in the first place. If she really loved you then an expensive ring wouldn't have mattered in the first place. My advice would be to be honest with her. Tell her the TRUTH before it gets bad. Just let her know that you were trying to go the cheap way out and you ended up getting screwed. Your honesty (before she finds out the hard way) will mean more to her than you think, and things might go a little better. Unless she is just in it for the material things.
2007-02-12 13:57:04 · answer #10 · answered by butterfly_tat_luver79 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. You cannot afford the expensive ring.
Go to the store and both of you find a ring that you can afford, she will appreciate, and put it on layaway. If all she is interested in is the most expensive ring, then she does not have a clue as to what is important in life.
2007-02-12 13:58:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋