my boyfriend and i are very much in love now. he is the sweetest!
in our past however, he USED me to cheat on his ex once. i never told her about it, but she dumped him bc he was mean to her (they lasted 1 month).afterwards, he was interested in another girl but stopped seeing her to ask me out instead.
^The above^ all happened after he and i dated for 2 yrs and he mentioned marriage (told everyone i was The One), but i wasn't ready and refused to see him for 5 months. he had moved on with that first girl i mentioned after i dumped him. he's not the cheating kind, so he and i were both surprised to find that he cheated on his ex that time. we have this unbreakable bond, but i just cannot get the past out of my head: that incident when he USED me to cheat on his ex! he says he doesn't know what he was thinking, but i can't forget it!!!
i really do love him so much though.
WHAT SHOULD I DO? i know i haven't been perfect in the past but what he did totally tops what i did.
opinions??
2007-02-12 13:37:30 · 7 answers · asked by aMeNa_aCid* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave him, once a cheat always a cheat!!! What makes you think that he won't do the same to you. It takes a certain kind of person to have the capacity to cheat, and he clearly IS of the cheating kind. You may feel special because he cheated with you and THINK "he'll never do that to me", don't be a fool. Find yourself a guy who REALLY isn't the cheating kind!!
2007-02-12 13:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by heartbroken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right to give this some thought. i say once a cheat always a cheat, but you know the guy and i don't.
there is no such thing as an unbreakable bond, as people grow and change so do how we look at things. (people and relationships)
how you see a person now will not be the same as you view them in say 10 years.
hopefully you will both mature together, grow out of these insecure feelings and enjoy a life filled with trust, understanding and love. HOWEVER--some people don't grow together they grow apart. therefore we have a high divorce rate.
2007-02-12 13:53:33 · answer #2 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that! Nothing is worse of a feeling then being used and being cheated on. First off I would be very worried about him cheating on his ex. Why would he do that? To get back at her? What happens if you guys fight will he do that to you? Second he used you! Believe me if you can't get over the past it will NEVER work! You will just end up in a very bad relationship that will end painfully! Trust me from experience in this! If I were you I would move on and not get back with this guy! There are so many guys out there that would never do what this guy did to you. Why waste your time and heart on someone who would do this to you? Move and and find someone who will treat you good! Good luck!
2007-02-12 13:45:21 · answer #3 · answered by ChristinaN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok hun you really are not going to like what i have to say.but remember its my opinion.the first time you cheat is the hardest .after that it get easy er.now just from what i know of the subject if they will cheat one time they will cheat again.and if he cheated on her with you something your not looking at is he also cheated on you with her.even if he was with her first you had no clue about her.so he was cheating on you too.and it just gets easy er.but if you want to continue your relationship with him it will never work if you don't someway get passed this.it will always be there and when he is late or doesn't show up one day you will wounder.as for should you forgive him.no one can tell u that.only your heart can.so you need to sit down by yourself and ask yourself can you get passed this .i can tell you that if u cant then drop it all together or it will tear u up.
2007-02-12 13:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by darkangelkya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 01:02:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its always best to forvgive but we are only human and though we can forgive we cant forget. i would forgive him but dont give him another chance. i know you love him but its best that you find someone who TRULY loves you and will respect you and never use you in such ways.
2007-02-12 13:43:25 · answer #6 · answered by mommylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run fast run hard in the opposite direction of this guy.
2007-02-12 13:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋