I am having a somewhat formal wedding ceremony,..trying to find a cute little church or so, and im wearing a gorgeous wedding dress, bridesmaids, groomsman, the whole shebang! but i want to have a informal very very fun reception for all the family!! Do you think that this is ok? I want to have a buffet style reception at the american legion here in town. Just want some opinion on this method. i think it should go over pretty well!
2007-02-12 13:29:20 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
At my wedding I had the whole shebang too. I also had my reception at the American Legion. We had a two meat buffet and had a dance after dinner. We had open bar. It was perfect. Everyone told me how great the whole wedding was. Everyone enjoyed it and we all had a blast. It will go over well. Just stay calm and let the little things slide. Good Luck and Congratulations!!
2007-02-12 13:55:12 · answer #1 · answered by kerri_lynn01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be okay, but I'm going to play advocate here.
Yes, It is your wedding- and you should do what you want.
But as a guest, going to a whole "she-bang" wedding with a gorgeous dress, etc. - then heading off to the American Legion for a buffet - could come across as though you put more thought and care into yourself and not your guests if you don't execute it well. (For example: Think of how your guests will expect to dress. Do they dress for the formal or the informal?)
That's not to say that your reception can't be relaxed, fun, and informal and that you can't have a buffet at the American Legion. Just make sure that it is done with the same level of care and thought as the wedding otherwise people won't remember the beauty. Make it equally beautiful at the American Legion than at your church.
(I was in a beautiful wedding, only to have it follwed by an "informal" reception in the church hall/basketball court. The buffet was served in disposable dishes, and the guests used disposable tableware. That is what I remember, not the ceremony.)
So go for it - but do it well!!
2007-02-12 13:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds perfect. Just because the wedding ceremony is traditional and formal doesn't mean the reception has to be. My daughter had a very traditional and formal outdoor ceremony at sunset but a relaxed and fun reception with a buffet.
2007-02-12 13:38:13 · answer #3 · answered by debwils_4kids 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when we got married we had a small church wedding then 2 weeks later had a large party at my mom's it was great. I think it is acceptable to do. i have been to a lot of weddings that were fairly formal and the reception was just a big party. I think it depends on the people you invite. If you have a less formal reception you may want to make sure your dress bustles and your veil can be removed so you will be able to enjoy yourself. i even knew a few couples that got married in the chapel at a cemetery.
2007-02-12 13:44:23 · answer #4 · answered by bubbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the reception reflects your personality and preferences, it will be a great time. Choose decorations for the hall that match what you like. For example, if you like the whole stars and moon theme from a few years back, decorate with that. Lots of receptions these days are buffet style but keep one thing in mind - buffet styles are more expensive than a plated dinner. It's not much of a price difference and if you're going to cater it yourself rather than hire someone, you might be able to do it cheaper - but the one thing my professors in college told me (I took hotel, resort & restaurant admin) is that the cost of food on a buffet is more than a plated meal because there is no portion control. Other than that, I'm sure it will be a great party.
2007-02-12 15:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a great idea. Have your formal dream wedding and then take your shoes off and celebrate. Heck, I'm not even wearing shoes to my wedding, I will be wearing ballet slippers. Formal ceremonys are beautiful and the reception should be fun. Good idea.
2007-02-13 07:39:48 · answer #6 · answered by Vogue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes definately ok this will be a more enjoyable affair & one that you will remember forever.
My sister recently did the same she had all the trimmings for the church & the service but the reception was finger food on top of a classy bar in Sydney Australia)
They arrived handcuffed together because everyone knew she did a runner & pulled out on the first attempt to marry (the same groom).
Everything went really smoothly & still had class.
Good luck
2007-02-12 14:19:21 · answer #7 · answered by gianluca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I'm getting married in May and that's my game plan. The whole ceremony is very formal and the reception is going to be like your at a party. So I think it's okay.
2007-02-12 14:33:24 · answer #8 · answered by tamekaclrk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My niece did that the very formal wedding then a buffet reception it had it all chocolate fountain and all. The food was delicious, they also had the brides cake ( the layered one) then a grooms cake. In my opinion if you can afford it then go for it.
2007-02-12 14:00:05 · answer #9 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds great! Anyways, it your wedding, your day and you can do whatever you whant! Don't worry what everyone else thinks. Have a blast! If I can make a suggestion for your bouquet. If you go with real flowers put a little bit of ivy in your bouquet. Afterwards you can plant it. It's an awesome memory and you can give a piece to both of your moms. Mine's 7 years now! Best of luck!
2007-02-12 13:39:33 · answer #10 · answered by Allie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋