My wife's niece spends a lot of time on the phone, we live in a difrent state and mi wife, like any other family member, likes to call her sisters and catch up on things.
when my wife's niece answer the phone she always tells my wife to call back later or that her mom will call her back later but it never happens. my wife is upset but doesn't dare to bring it up, me personally can't say much since im an outsider but it does bother me that some of her family don't bother to realize what's really going on plus it is disrespectful to my wife. my wife always calls her family but they never call her back and she's afraid to bring it up because they would get upset. am i wrong for telling my wife she should bring it up hard and strong since this been happening for a while now ??
2007-02-12 13:28:15 · 12 answers · asked by CG 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I understand that you love your wife and you don't want to see her treated poorly, but... it's really best that you try to stay out of it. It's her family so let her deal with them in her own way. When she's ready to confront them she will do it in her own time.
2007-02-12 13:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by true blue 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't dare say this to her yourself or you will never hear the end of it (You know what I mean!). Just show her what people are writing:
Either she should contact her family members, by mail if the brat niece will not get off the phone, and let them know what is going on i.e., that she would like to talk with them more and and the phone line is being tied up. Or STFU about it and stop straining your relationship because she cannot get over her family treating her in a way that she should not have to tolerate. She should tell them that she wants to talk to them more but if they are not interested in reciprocating, she should just move on and leave them in the past.
She is causing strain on your relationship by focusing on family and the past instead of focusing on the now and the future between you two.
2007-02-12 13:37:55 · answer #2 · answered by Marc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should write them a letter telling them how she feels. She should let her sister know she's been trying to call her, but the niece is always on the phone. Maybe the sister doesn't realize your wife is trying to call her.
2007-02-12 13:33:02 · answer #3 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, cuz if they would get upset if she "accused" them of something they don't think they are doing it could make hard feelings. Just be supportive & affectionate towards your wife to take up the void you feel she may be receiving from her family. :)
Love & hugs to you all & maybe they will come around some day. Maybe they have other things going on in their own lives & at least she calls once in a while or can write to show she cares. :)
2007-02-12 13:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by Nocine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just comfort her, tell your wife that its ok. Try letting her know that even tho her family doesnt return her calls like she wants them to that they still love her, even tho they dont show it by calling her back and telling her themselves. Convince her to call them once more and if her sister, mother or anyone else doesnt answer then try again some other time. I hope it works. Good Luck to you and your wife.
2007-02-12 13:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by tommi_ghurl_2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the niece isn't relaying the message.....or maybe your wife just shouldn't call... e mail them a a message instead and see if they reply. Sometimes I don't call my mom often enough but it doesn;'t mean that I don't care for her or dislike her. You could be making a mountain out of a mole hill. Just hang tough... e mail....don't call. And send nice e mails, don't mention the not calling thing.
2007-02-12 13:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by sushihen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 01:00:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would bring it up. You dont even know if your wife's niece is letting her family know that she called.
2007-02-12 13:33:17 · answer #8 · answered by Pinky Lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely correct ! People treat you the way you have taught them to treat you . She should tell the neice that she must talk to her sister now it can't wait .After all your time is valuable also. Get tough .It's your dime .
Good Luck
2007-02-12 13:38:17 · answer #9 · answered by Elaine814 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her independently settling herself with her own family.u don't bother about her but just advising her 4 good.
2007-02-12 13:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋