my boyfriend and i are very much in love now. he is the sweetest!
in our past however, he USED me to cheat on his ex once. i never told her about it, but she dumped him bc he was mean to her (they lasted 1 month).afterwards, he was interested in another girl but stopped seeing her to ask me out instead.
^The above^ all happened after he and i dated for 2 yrs and he mentioned marriage (told everyone i was The One), but i wasn't ready and refused to see him for 5 months. he had moved on with that first girl i mentioned after i dumped him. he's not the cheating kind, so he and i were both surprised to find that he cheated on his ex that time. we have this unbreakable bond, but i just cannot get the past out of my head: that incident when he USED me to cheat on his ex! he says he doesn't know what he was thinking, but i can't forget it!!!
i really do love him so much though.
WHAT SHOULD I DO? i know i haven't been perfect in the past but what he did totally tops what i did.
opinions??
2007-02-12 13:25:33 · 5 answers · asked by aMeNa_aCid* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you love him and you both click so why are you letting a good thing go...go for it and get him back and you guys will be great together, sometimes time apart makes you realize what you really want out of life
2007-02-12 13:31:49 · answer #1 · answered by chele 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all the girl he "cheated" with was YOU, none other but YOU. That means that he still had feelings for you while dating another woman cuz YOU left him in the first place. I think you can trust him. Sometimes things in relationships are messy and later they turn out for the better. If you love him forget about the past. Don't mention it, you will only mess things up. Now do you truly love him or are you looking for an excuse to dump him again? Are you feeling guilty? Check yourself first don't blame him. In that incident there were 2 brains involved and yours went along with everything.
2007-02-12 13:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by EV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you say, you two are in love with each other but don't know what to do next... That sort of bond is very, very rare. The feelings you both get from it will never be matched. However, if you can't get past what he did it is going to effect your relationship. You will have insecurities about him doing it to you which will attack your bond until you have nothing left except alot of pain and regret. It doesn't sound like he would have done it if he had what he wanted in the first place, you.
2007-02-12 13:36:53 · answer #3 · answered by missdre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely, i'm uncertain what you're wanting to forgive him for. It feels like he became no longer waiting to handle your character, and if that's so that then you are no longer truly ment for another. besides the indisputable fact that, opposites do entice, and that's the fact. in case you're disillusioned simply by fact he had moved on throughout that 5 months you have been broke up, nicely......what became he gonna do? i'm no longer attempting to assault you, i'm purely announcing which you 2 probably are on no account going to have that suitable relationship you prefer simply by fact your personalities do no longer mesh. that's ok, there are different persons accessible and the two one in each of you will discover the suited one. I say you the two would desire to maintain relationship and supply one yet another a smash. you're nevertheless youthful and you have time to settle on no remember if or no longer you prefer a periminant relationship with one yet another.
2016-09-29 01:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow well..I would just forget about it if you are very much in luv as u put it. and i would forgive him. And well. it was smart of you to say u werent ready but at least get back together.
jay
2007-02-12 13:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by bear4lyfe100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋