What exact rights do grandparents have over their grandkids in uk? please help me?

Question

Im a protestant girl and i'm engaged to and pregnant to a catholic guy now obviously religon means nothing to me but being from n ireland it is a big deal to my family i thought i could compromise and keep both families happy by either getting married in a catholic church and havin the baby christened in a protestant church or vice versa but my dad hit the roof wen i told him and sed if i do either in a catholic place he will get my child took away from me i wouldnt worry so much but im down as a social risk on my maternity notes already because i had a social worker at14 cos i wouldnt go to school. Can someone please tell me whether he can do this or not?

Answer 1

Stand Up For Your Rights!
It is YOUR RIGHT to decide which, if any, religion YOU believe in.
The child is YOURS.
No-one should be able to discredit you,
or your ability as a mum,
by dragging up your past
(when you had minor? problems, probably caused through no fault of your own)
(in my experience, people who truant, are people who are crying for help- they are not getting).
So IF anyone tries to pull that one on you,
STAND UP for yourself by saying:
You accept you did have a problem when you were a kid,
YOU got over that, you are now wiser.
NO-ONE can take your child away from you, if you are a good mum, who looks after her child responsibly- the child is clean, well-fed, happy etc., because you put the child's needs before your own.
IF you bash the kid about, or are abusive in other ways EG. leaving "it" alone so you can go boozing... then you do risk having the child removed from your care.

IF your problems are caused by religion, how about organising a meeting between the priests / vicars (whatever they are called!) at the respective churches your family etc., attends, with your partner & grand-parents etc., to iron this problem out?
Perhaps such a meeting would best be organised by writing them all a letter, stating how their SELFISH attitude/s are making you feel unhappy & confused, & that could have a detrimental affect on your child?
YOU could also send a copy to a social worker, to enlist their help & support (for YOU).

Alternatively, leave NI? That's a drastic, longer term remedy you could consider & plan for. That is also YOUR RIGHT
i.e. to determine WHERE you want to live & the world is your oyster.
Your grand-parents have very few rights. They are not even entitled to know information relating to your child's welfare.
So don't worry too much about them wanting to FORCE you into a way of life you don't agree with - worry more about how their interfering in YOUR life is affecting you.
Yeh? OK?
Take care. & Good luck.
PS. You are a Brave girl. Well done for believing in what you want.

Answer 2

I feel sorry for you Dee, what a horrible position to be in. Your father sounds very autocratic and the sooner you can leave his home and set one up of your own the better. Grandparents have very little rights over their grandchildren in the UK, especially if Social Services have no reason to think that you are a bad mother. I don't know how old you are, but hopefully 18 or older, and as such, an adult in the eyes of the law - therefore your father can do little legally, although he can make your life unpleasant.

I don't think it matters about the fact that you wouldnt go to school at 14. That is history. Prove to everyone that matters that you will be a responsible mother. Marry the father of the baby if he is a good guy and will look after you both.

Good luck, and stand up to your father.

Answer 3

Do grandparents have a real to make certain their grandchildren? All states have enacted guidelines granting grandparents a real to visit with their grandchildren, besides the undeniable fact that the scope of that actual varies from state to state. In maximum states, if the mummy and father of a newborn are divorced or separated, the grandparents would search for a particular order of visitation. frequently, an order of visitation for the grandparents basically isn't needed if the grandparents will be in a position to make certain their grandchildren at situations at the same time as the grandchildren are with their make certain to whom the grandparent is acceptable. If, besides the undeniable fact that, such contact isn't available because the make certain does no longer oftentimes workout visitation, then particular visitation for the grandparents will be ordered. maximum states also enable grandparent visitation if the make certain to whom the grandparent is acceptable has died. some states will also supply grandparents visitation if the newborn had lived with the grandparents for an major era of time. If the grandparent seeks visitation with the newborn, the grandparent ought to educate that visitation is in the most ideal interest if the newborn. This frequently means the grandparents have had an effective relationship with the grandchild in the previous and that the grandparents gained't use their visitation to undermine the newborn’s relationship with the make certain or mom and father.

Answer 4

Unless you are somehow a ward of the state, NOBODY can tell you what kind of religious decisions to make. You are an adult. I suppose your dad could kick up a big fuss, make trouble, kick you out (do you live with them?), threaten benefits etc but specifically for your religiosu choices? No. Frankly I think you would be much more sensible to DECLARE that you want NO religion in your family or for your child at all. Stop trying to use half measures!

Answer 5

For starters, how old are you sweetie? If your over the age of 18 it shouldnt really matter what your family thinks. If you love your baby's father then go ahead and marry him, it shouldnt really matter what religion he is to your parents, as long as me makes you happy and he loves both you and your baby thats all that matters, the same with his family, just explain it to your family and if they dont understand it then they have to deal with it because its your life now, not their's.