how should i ask her about it.. without hurting her or making her feel as if i dont trust her.. or how can i find out without having to talk 2 her about it at all
2007-02-12 13:13:32 · 22 answers · asked by girl_next_door_red 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not a bad thing is she likes your boyfriend.....and if she's really your friend it won't go any further.
I'm not sure why you want to ask her...if she says yes what will you do?
2007-02-12 13:16:28 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to find out without asking her, and if you do ask her, you're risking your friendship. Any information you get from anyone else would be hearsay, and she won't tell you if she DOES have a thing for him. If she does care for him, she can't help her feelings: we don't pick and choose the people we have chemistry with. The only thing you can be mad about is if she makes a move on him. Do you trust her not to that? If you don't, confront her, because she must not be much of a friend anyway if you don't trust her.
2007-02-12 13:18:00 · answer #2 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont mention it and get over it. If you trust your friend and your boyfriend - then drop it and put it out of your mind. Both would have to be pretty deceitful to hurt you like that and (worst case) if they do hook up then neither are your real friends anyway. Dont mention it or you will stir up unnecessary drama, and/or put ideas in their heads that may not have been there before. Have faith in your friends and your relationship with bf.
2007-02-12 13:21:21 · answer #3 · answered by njsnowrider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I know guys in here are going to hate me and say I am insecure after they read this.... Ok I would confront her and tell her that he is OFF LIMITS, PRIVATE PROPERTY and that if she crosses the line she is going to regret it. Honestly, kick her butt! Now, does he flirt with her? Have you seen any signs from his part?? Talk to him about it and see what he has to say. Trust your gut girl. Almost always your gut feeling is right. Protect your man and make it very clear that if she even makes the slightest move that your frienship is OVER. You don't need a friend that betrays you.
2007-02-12 13:23:47 · answer #4 · answered by EV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your boyfriend has she ever tried to come onto him if he says no and you trust him then there is no problem if you don't trust him just be straight with her and ask her. Honesty is always good when you are try to hold on to your friendship and watch them real close don't leave hem alone together either because that is asking for problems.
2007-02-12 13:18:52 · answer #5 · answered by deebo21_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in my experience, body language tells alot. When she's around your boyfriend do you notice her sneaking glances in his direction, or laughing at everything he says,do you find her thinking of a reason to be around you when your with him.Those are just a few hints for you to observe when she's around. Unfortunately some friends do like other friends boyfriends, and most people tend to keep it to themselves as a private crush,but if they end up dating them after you have broken up with them, then they were never your friend to begin with. I always stuck to one golden rule with my friends, never date each others ex's.You stay friends longer that way.And if you have a need to know for sure, then quesition a mutual friend about her, one you can trust,if she does have a thing for him, she would have surely mentioned it to someone.I understand your hesitation in going straight to her, because you don't want to accuse her and be wrong, that could affect your friendship for sure.Well I hope this helps Good luck
2007-02-12 13:29:29 · answer #6 · answered by glorene b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she does have a thing for your guy, but isn't doing anything about it, it would just be mean to say anything. You can't help who you have a crush on. If she's really your friend she won't pursue it. Just make sure you have a really honest relationship with your bf, so if she does make a move you can say something then.
2007-02-12 13:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by Charles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do u say that?U would have had to see something eg.The way she looks @him maybe?Or she mite just really admire him and yall relationship,if u do confront either pls b sure!Coz it might mess up things with both of them,remember no 1 wants be accused..So look things through carefully!GOOD LUCK
2007-02-12 16:42:18 · answer #8 · answered by Cassý 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is your real friend this wouldn't happen and u should b able to ask her anything but remember guys are a dime a dozen and there's another right around the corner but a good friend are hard to find
2007-02-12 13:21:26 · answer #9 · answered by stop2wade 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easily I would say that you speak to her face-to-face about your relationship w/ your BF. by telling her how good your relationship is and how strong it is, it may make her think twice if your suspicion is true.
worse comes to worse, you can always have your BF comment to her that she is just a friend and nothing more.
nothing hurts more than having the object of your affection turn you down. much more effective than having you tell her.
2007-02-12 13:21:00 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋