he is in his mid sixties and goes like crazy,deer hunting,fishing,camping and any other outdoor excursion he can think of at every oppertunity.he has a heart condition, diabetes,and other health problems. i tell him to take a radio with him and he forgets to turn it on half the time.i love him and he is worrying me sick! what can i do?
2007-02-12 12:35:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't worry!
He's doing what he enjoys and it makes him happy. Those activities might actually be keeping him young, by making him more active, being positive, laughing with his buddies and doing his male bonding.
Why would you want to take that away from him, even if he's sick?
I'd hate to not FEEL sickly and then be treated like I am sick, and then be confined to my home. I'd rather be out and enjoying the day on my good days.
If you're worried your husband might die and you'll be left alone, talk to your husband about that. Because you would be denying him a lot of happiness if you ask him to stay home. Maybe he'll take you more seriously if you speak of your fears that you won't get to say goodbye or be there when he needs help. He might just think you're nagging if you just keep reminding him to take the radio or his medicine and things.
Be honest with him. Tell him you would miss him and you still need him dearly for many years to come.
But other than that, don't think "it" will happen. Be happy with him. If it does happen, he was having fun in his last days on earth and you didn't deny him any of that.
Don't worry about him, just be honest and then support him in what he wants to do.
2007-02-12 13:18:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I hope I'm that active when I'm sixty! Well, the advice I'm going to give you is based on my experiences with grandparents and what I have noticed in them. If he likes doing these things, let him! Keeping him active will keep him alive! When he has something to look forward to, be it hunting or whatever, he has something to live for! When my grandma stopped working, it seemed like her body stopped working. First the legs, then the eyes and eventually the brain. She worked as a housekeeper until she was 84 and lived till she was 94! To give yourself some peace of mind, get him a cell phone instead of a radio because then he has no choice but to have it on! Keep this in mind too, whatever time he has left on Earth should be happy for him. If doing these things makes him happy, why ruin it? Just make sure he takes his meds and follows doctors orders. If the doctor sees nothing wrong with his adventures, you shouldn't worry too much! Also, I'm sure he isn't going on these adventures alone! If he's with someone, he is safer than if he is alone. My point is, both of you should be enjoying your lives the way you want to - you have earned it!
2007-02-12 20:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by CurlyLocks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not old but from what little experience I have in this unholy world I have seen that when old people slow down they usually die soon after. You need physical activity and something to look forward. I don't hunt bu,t a lot of my coworkers do. They all look forward to hunting season. Having something to look forward to keeps you healthy and alive.
What he needs is a partner in crime. Someone that will accompany him in his adventures. It could be you you know. Another alternative is to substitute his activity with other activities. Anything but sitting around watching TV will do. How about swimming at the Y. Or go on vacation tours where both of you can trek other countries or in the country where you live.
2007-02-12 20:43:02 · answer #3 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he go with others? If so, he will probably be ok since there is someone else to help him if he should fall ill. Is he managing his health conditions? Outdoor fresh air and doing something he likes are both excellent for nearly any health condition. If he's taking his medication and watching his weight, he should be ok. He should enjoy life while he can. Check with his doctor or go with him to his next appointment(s) and voice your concerns. If the real issue is he isn't spending time with you, then you need to have a talk with him and schedule time together.
2007-02-12 20:41:16 · answer #4 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweeted, he a man, an my self i do the same thing as your man does, but he happy,,,an as long as he doing something, he feel a live, if you stop him from doing the thing he love, he would just dry up, my wife stay on me too, but you know,if they did find me in the wood, i be where i feel home the best,, but do like my. wife does me, get your son to go with him are a friend to go,but all you can reald do is love him,an worried , an if he wont take a friend along , well i sure you got a cast iron pan laying a round,lol
2007-02-12 20:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is meant to be lived....as long as he is taking precautions with his safety, I don't think he ought to slow down. I hope when I'm that age, I'm full of life and keeping busy doing the things that I love to do! Ask him to please check in with you at least once in the morning and once in the evening, and that in return you'll quit nagging at him to slow down. Also, make sure he has a good life insurance policy. No reason not to be practical, is there?
2007-02-12 20:47:53 · answer #6 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why slow - down.
He is enjoying those things. Just make sure he is getting treatment for his illnesses.
My mom is 72 and she has slowed down.
Encourage him to have fun and take good care of his health.
2007-02-12 20:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by Bob 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make sure he has a cell phone with him at all times in case he gets injured. Also, they just came out with GPS tracking boots or sneekers for about three hundred bucks- buy him a pair to keep track of him.
2007-02-12 20:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with him, and make sure that he takes good care of you on these trips and he will have to slow down as you are probably slower then him.
2007-02-12 21:11:50 · answer #9 · answered by mc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a thing. he is going to do what he is going to do.
he has been this way a long time and he will continue to do so.
i know it drives you crazy but that's the way he is.
2007-02-12 20:44:11 · answer #10 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋