i am feeling very romantic towards my bf but do not at all want to show it.How will i arouse romantic feeling for me in him without me telling or hinting him.Actually my bf feel romantic for me but very rarely but nowadays i feel the romance between us is vanished.I really want to bring back the romance between us but also want he should make the first move.
2007-02-12 12:32:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
this is probably the most common problem in many relationships today.... MISCOMMUNICATION....... truly what you want you can't really say, and you can't really blame him if he can't figure out what seems to matter....you could easily solve this by directly or indirectly emphasizing on little things that matters to you and your relationship with him and see how he responds....
when you said that romance is vanishing to both of you, were you implying that you're both turning cold on each other or its only in his part?....my only solution for this is to convey more compassion and just be romantic yourself....usually a guy can turn romantic when the girl herself shows a strong intensity of caring towards him...then he'll know that he wouldn't get insecure or nervous to think what if he does something romantic....
Haven't you ever had any experience that for guys who are not really romantic...whenever they have their partner the one making up for their lack of compassion...it will eventually level things for both of them....right now there is a miscommunication to both of you in a field of expressing both of your feelings for each other, what he lacks in communicating you could more than make up for....its a welcoming signal for him to also make his move...
don't try to be tacky or even too clingy, there are many ways of expressing how much you love a person without driving them nuts(lol)..... a simple but tight hug with a pinch of sincerity is a best implication of your romantic side that he might pick up....or even a very heated kiss can bring up his romantic side....this might not work in valentines day right away, but i am giving you an advice to a solution that might resolve your problems in a long-run...after all, it shouldn't only be valentines day you both should be romantic to each other...it should be everyday
2007-02-12 13:07:23 · answer #1 · answered by badluck13b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't going to like my answer.
You HAVE to put in some effort, too. Maybe that's why he isn't doing anything right now. He probably doesn't think you care.
A few things that might help:
-footrub
- Make him a surprise supper
-Actually, any sort of small surprise. This could be hard if you live together.
- Send him a small note to work, in his briefcase, or on his car, etc.
Do SOMETHING! DO talk to him. It won't hurt, in fact it might help you out a lot.
If it's sexual romance you're looking for, throw subtley to the winds. Get some lingerie and put it on under a long jacket. Surprise him. It'll get him going. And since it sounds like you don't do things like this very often, it will shock the heck out of him -most likely in a very positive way.
There are also different scents that are aphrodisiacs. Get a chocolate-scented candle.
I don't know what else to tell you, except that I think by not communicating your needs to your boyfriend you will be risking your relationship. He can't read your mind -as much as we might want them to, boys just aren't that good - so you need to tell him what you need.
2007-02-12 20:47:53 · answer #2 · answered by cheryl_2007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i hate to tell you but guys well normal guys dont just like to romantic all the time sometimes you have to give him a hint at least a suddle on me personally id say try to make him a very nice dinner and see if that will open his eyes he might get the idea to return the faver but he might not
2007-02-12 20:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by vamp_19772001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I think your bf also love u very much but he donot show his love boys have a ego problem that he want make a first move by u always love is not a showbiz its a inner felling &depends on a faith between both whenever u make first move then your bf think u love him and u r always him.
vivek tyagi
2007-02-12 21:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by vicky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is all like the other sensors in your body, if you can smile, feel, smell, etc than I believe that you can have romance feeling too. There nothing special for romance feel it all come as a package in you body.
2007-02-13 11:53:31 · answer #5 · answered by yogasun2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u know the reason behind this?might be some family or work trouble.talk to him and tell him that u see an evident change in his expression of love for u now a days and why is it so???
2007-02-14 05:00:03 · answer #6 · answered by gary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys take alot to open their eyes...if you dont almost come out and say that you what you want, they dont get the hint...maybe you should get imtimate with him...a mesage, buy some lubricant, than show him your vagina...shave real good though...he will want to eat that cherry all night if ya know what i mean
2007-02-12 20:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry, i m here
i m fulfill ur needs
foget ur past
2007-02-13 14:26:28 · answer #8 · answered by aranga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him what makes him excited and do that
2007-02-16 09:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by c_mayur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋