i cook clean i know how to take care of myself ,, i come from a broken home i can'y see my dad ETC.. my bf and his family are willing to take me in and still keep a good education. my mother has threatened me hit me .. i just want to leave ,, she wants to move out of state and i will lose everything i worked so hard for,,, I really need to know if i can move out??
2007-02-12 12:23:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
based on your information i think it's a wise idea to move out. your situation can't be good for you. but make sure your bf's family solution will be a sound one until atleast you're 18, if it fails you might not have a place to come back to. good luck!
2007-02-12 12:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are going through so much at such a young age. Even though you are 15 and are taking care of yourself and your mother is always gone, don't move out without your mother's permission. i don't know what state you are in, but in some, if you "run away" from home and are with an adult who know you have, they can go to jail. Since you are taking care of yourself, start reading on become an emancipated minor. Which means you have to prove to a judge that you can financially take care of yourself, though you are not 18. But you do have to be at least a certain age.I had an abusive parent and thought of taking that road. Do not talk about it with your mother just yet. Most likely she'll really want you with her even more though she's not around. Read as many books as you can on the subject. See if you can find a family law attorney who will help you with your case pro bono. Talk to your school counselor. Talk to your boyfriend's parents. But I wonder if you and your boyfriend were to break up, what would happen with your relationship with his parents. Do you have a grandparent or aunt/uncle, some adult family member that you can confide in and who can help you? Good luck.
2007-02-20 12:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by Vasilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to check out the legal issues here. Your bf's house might be a good place but what if it doesn't work out with you two, and you have severed your relationship with your mom. Worse than being with a terrible mom would be homeless out on the streets. Do you have any other family that you could ask for advice or help from? No matter what you decide to do, think it over for a few days before you committ to something to make sure that you are doing what is best. Good luck and I'll be praying for you.
2007-02-12 12:40:28 · answer #3 · answered by Kitty33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can become emancipated. Unfortunately, you need a lawyer for this in most cases. If your mother is not treating you well, i.e. hitting you, verbally abusing you, etc. You need to tell someone that you trust or call the police when it happens again. I hope you find a good solution for your problem. It's not easy growing up today. Good Luck!
2007-02-19 00:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by xraytls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't abandon your mother. If she is abusive to you or truly is negligent talk to a counselor or the police. Know that either way if you have been abusive to her you will be held accountable as well. It takes more than one person to have a relationship. Have you talked to your mom about all of this? Have you respected her when you did? You mentioned moving out of state. Is it for the best? Is it for a new job? Does she have any family members who stay with you or a sitter? Or do you tell her you don't need a sitter? As you can see your question led to many. I hope you will do what truly is best for you and for mom.
2007-02-12 12:53:15 · answer #5 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, your mother is legally responsible for you until you're 18. However, if things are as bad as you claim you should call your local department od child services and inquire about an emancipation. I have seen 16 yr olds who are legally on their own through this process. Understand though, thta once you're emancipated your life is TOTALLY YOUR RESPONSIBILITY. Think it through. It may be worth toughing out another 3 yrs.
2007-02-12 12:56:09 · answer #6 · answered by xxted_strykerxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! that's ruff but always look on the bright side of things. but to be truthful you have to ask your higher power.whether its God, muhammad, moses,or etc.. because this one is tough. who can really make that decision? not me for one. i just replied to give you another option on your problem. who knows you could stay with your mother and continue to be unhappy or you could move in with your bf and he could hurt you or mistreat you. on the other hand your mother could change and start being there for you or your boyfriend could love you unconditionally and treat you like a queen that you are. but i don't wanna give you an idea and that ends up ruining you life. so ask who or what you believe in for guidance.
2007-02-12 12:39:06 · answer #7 · answered by sexy mo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one. Legally I'd say no you can't - but there is the possibility that your mom won't try to get you back if you refuse to come. There is also the possibility that your bf's parents would be in legal trouble for harboring you.
2007-02-12 12:27:31 · answer #8 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF your mom treathend to hit you I would call the police when she's not there or I'd call your bf's house and let the parents pick you up and then call the police. If your seroucly hurt and if she's treatening you I would do something and fast.
2007-02-19 04:52:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a better environment at your bf's but what if you guys break up? See if your mom will let you go because technically you are still a minor and unfortunately it's up to her.
2007-02-12 12:28:43 · answer #10 · answered by CHICK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋