i broke up with him about 2wks ago beacause we were just much better friends then we were boyfriend/girlfriend. He was fine with being friends he acutally got really into and still called me and told people we were best friends. We on sat night he called me a "f"er which is weird cause he's never really said anythng like that to me (we go to a small private school with like 75 in the highschool) well then i found out today that he has been saying that he hates me soo much since we broke up and he says it all the time and calls me names like what a stupid ***** she did soandso and does this all the time behind my back, and like i said i just found this out today and i'm wrting him a note but i dont know what all to say....help me please!!
2007-02-12 12:21:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thank yourself that you broke up. what an @ss.
dont tell him it hurts, because that is why he is doing it. dont validate his attacks. ignore him. in fact laugh every time you see him.
if he gets nasty, make sure everyone can hear you when you tell him that the STD test came in, and you didnt catch his HERPES.
if you have to write, write this:
Dear you,
I am writing this note to let you know I appreciate all your childish and immature actions these past few weeks. they have allowed me to validate our decision not to be in a relationship.
many thanks,
me.
2007-02-12 12:32:43 · answer #1 · answered by SAINT G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In case he really is "turning to the dark side"
1.) don’t’ be nasty.
You can't be on higher moral ground when you are wallowing around in the mud
2.) If he is talking about you behind your back, he will certainly share your correspondence with anyone who will read it. - don't write anything you don’t' mind anyone publishing in the paper.
3.) Don't whine, or say how much he hurt you- more fodder. If he really "hates" you, imagine the person chuckling at what you wrote and pointing out a particular passage to a buddy.
Oh my god! I can't believe she said THAT!
Think of it as an English paper you need to turn in. Be polite, be forgiving, but do not accuse him- just incase someone has blown it out of proportion before it got to you.
Here is an example:
Hey,
News is getting back to me that you are feeling something different then you were showing me.
That you are a little angrier at us not being together then you let on.
It was never my intention to hurt you- that is why I stopped it when I did. We were better friends then boyfriend/Girlfriend, and going on that way- someone would get seriously hurt.
I can understand that you are not in the best of places right now, and you may be angry at me, and "just being friends" is going to be a little harder then how it was before.
I am still your friend, and I am here to talk to, if you need me.
2007-02-12 20:42:50 · answer #2 · answered by There you are∫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but to me it sounds like he isn't much of a friend of any kind to carry on like he's been doing since you broke it off with him.
Any guy who acts like this surely isn't much of a friend or ex-friend because if he can't keep it together as "just friends" then go off saying all those nasty things about you kind of makes you glad you got rid of him when you did.
Consider yourself lucky to be just his ex because you have not done anything wrong to deserve what he's doing to you now and it's best for you to put it on the back burner and go on from there. You are a better person for this and don't look back either. No one deserves what he's dishing out and better you don't even reply to anything that he's doing now cause he's just waiting for that and he could even makes things worse for you if you do reply so better not send any notes or letters to him at all just move on and let him lay in him mess all he wants.
Hope this helps you a bit because like I said, you surely don't deserve any part of this guys venom so stay clear of him, ok.
2007-02-12 20:33:12 · answer #3 · answered by fedupmoma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a bad seed at the moment anger is settling in what have ya done so wrong ask hI'm if ya want too but ask him in a nice way by the way so and so i hear this and im trying to respect ya as a friend but i don't like this behind my back could you let me know if this is true ( be prepared for a yes) so then when he says yea i did say or ya ask well if ya said it i need closure from u or an explanation so i can correct us as friends or at least forr us to be civil be polite tactful show an example fo maturity although ya want to put his lights out and ya are hurt i know and its sux but ask if he did by the way and you would like to rectify it and be civil.. then after he says wot ever don't talk to him again.. be "busy" don't say a thing about him pretend your going on even if ur not.. ur rep is on the line.obviously if he bad mouthing u he is hurt or mad about something that isn't all thru yet.. or cleared so give him this chance then go on i hate this about guys they cant talk to you enough whats bugging them then talk about ya behind ur back where U have no defense.. at all .. it this air? NO i got words for that boi..
2007-02-12 20:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe everything you hear. Find out from him. If he did say those things maybe it because he's hurt and still has feelings for you. Sometimes you just need to let go of the relationship even the friendship. It's hard to be friend with an ex.
2007-02-12 20:26:10 · answer #5 · answered by CHICK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he's fake and you dont want be friends with a raggedy *** ************ who cant be a man and say whatever he's saying behind your back he can say too your face. Tell him, "your just mad because I dumped your *** and you dont know how to handle it like a man so your lashing out like a little boy and then walk away. When he tries to call you ignore his calls and when he tries to talk to you blow him off. You never know how much you miss a person until their gone!
2007-02-12 20:33:42 · answer #6 · answered by keisha B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him face to face --that friends do not call each other stupid- tell him it hurts you to know he talks behind your back-----do not be afraid, confront him with how you truly feel- if he's a friend he will stop--if not then he may not a very good friend to have
You can write the note - but tell him --the sooner the better for you
2007-02-12 20:25:20 · answer #7 · answered by Yahoo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
let time take the wheel. Dont give him a note. Act like you dont care and then when someone askes you, say ur the best of friends. Act like it dosent bother you cuse boys like when the girl is vulnerable. Thats what he wants. Dont even give him the satisfaction.
2007-02-12 20:25:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok first all are you sure he said it and if he did girl dont you write him a note i would tell him off and i swaer if he keeps doning if then take it to the next level more power to ya good luck
2007-02-12 20:26:06 · answer #9 · answered by andi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel and that you're really hurt that he has been talking nasty behind your back.
do you still want to be friends with him?
i wouldn't
2007-02-12 20:25:45 · answer #10 · answered by wordsofapoet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋