2007-02-12 12:19:08 · 23 answers · asked by enerlad 1 in Food & Drink ➔ Beer, Wine & Spirits
At a bar, preferably with a few bills to buy drinks. That should keep them happy
2007-02-12 12:21:19 · answer #1 · answered by Sonoffun1 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm an alcoholic and my solution to that problem has been to stay single. It's a hereditary condition and I'd hate to pass it on to my kids, so I don't have any.
Some people think drunks are having fun, but it's horrible. It's really much worse than it looks. I tried A.A. It works for some people, but not most. What I found there was a bunch of annoying Bible thumpers who had never read the thing.
I'm always quitting and falling off the wagon. I've encountered various pseudo-scientific theories along the way, and what I've noticed is that however it's explained or carried out, keeping someone off the sauce for a minimum of 3 months usually lets their body adjust so they don't crave the stuff any more. I'll try for that. It isn't quite 3 weeks now. I'm not craving it this minute, but it will happen and I'm going to try to white knuckle it when it does.
2007-02-12 20:57:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. The easy thing to do would be to leave, however, if you want to stick it out the first step is your partner needs to admit he as a problem. Having him admit he has a problem is going to be hardest part of all. Like most people that have substance abuse problems, they are in denial of a problem. If the person has a substance abuse problem and is abusive then you may want to considering distancing yourself and suggesting he gets help. Sometimes the person needs to hit rock bottom before they seek help, exactly where this guy's rock bottom is depends on him. There is a saying "you can lead horse to water, but you can't make it drink." If he is unwilling to seek help and he is dragging your life down you need to apply some "tough love." Distance yourself, but tell him if he gets help you'll support him, but only if he sticks with it. Be strong and good luck.
2007-02-12 20:48:00 · answer #3 · answered by cireengineering 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are choosing to stay in a relationship with an alcoholic you need to get them help. Perhaps if they do not want help you should re-consider being with them. Still make an effort to help them regardless. Continuing to let someone drink excessively is not good. Alcoholism is a serious issue and it needs to be dealt with. Let the person's parents know or someone you trust can get your partner the help she or he needs.
2007-02-12 20:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by ♥CJ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're enabling...ie buying alcohol, allowing the person to go to establishments where there is alot of drinking(bars). STOP There is also support for familys and friends of alcoholics. Good luck
2007-02-12 20:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by Carrie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to al-anon. It is a group to help you learn to be happy whether or not the alcoholic is still drinking. My alcoholic joined AA within 6 months that I joined Al-anon, and has been sober ever since. Living with one sucks, but I promise, things do get better.
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/english.html
2007-02-12 20:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by Suzanne D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough question... sit down chat about their problem and how it affects the relationship and themself.
Provide a good resource for them to get help. Do not sugarcoat their problem.
Get down to business and tell them deal with it or else....but you must be willing to follow through....good luck
Alcoholics are master manipulators and if you are deeply involved with one ...it may be best to take the short term pain and then there will be a better life ahead. also,find out from your doctor what he/she thinks
2007-02-12 20:25:17 · answer #7 · answered by The Big O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing you should do is get yourself to an Al-Anon meeting and keep going as often as they tell you to. this group is designed specifically to help people who have alcoholic friends or family members. second, get your partner to an AA meeting and make sure he/she gets a sponsor and starts working the program. do NOT try and fix them yourself, they need professional help.
2007-02-12 20:29:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say deal do you mean helping them? I would sit down talk to them and see why they are using alcohol to drown their sorrows and then talk it out. Get them some counseling.
2007-02-12 20:22:42 · answer #9 · answered by sunirx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them detailed and accurate local help about HOW to get help.
Tell them you are ON to them.
Offer to drive them to go get help.
Then YOU LET IT GO.
You have zero power to change another person.
If they are dangerous or destructive directly to you and or your children, LEAVE.
If they reform, as they reform, go by what they DO not by what they SAY.
A boozer will promise you anything.
See a local attorney, protect your interests. Drunks often run off with the nest egg.
2007-02-12 20:23:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋