I've been sleeping with a man for almost a year. The sex is amazing, and we have wonderful conversations; we can talk about anything, and I find myself wanting to know him more, to possibly take it to relationship level. We are not monogamous, and he probably has more women than I have men. Whenever I mention wanting to go deeper with him, he says that he thinks I'm a beautiful person, but he doesn't like me "like that". I think he does like me, but won't pursue a relationship with me because I'm overweight (but I'm still a dime-piece!) Plus he's a self-confessed dog, who can't be faithful. Inside he's a sensitive man, with a great mind and heart. Sometimes I feel I am asking for trouble if we were to be in a relationship together. But often I think about the connection and camraderie we have, and consider the possibility that "we" can be different. I think about him so much, I don't know if I love him, but I definitely like him. Alot. What should I do?
2007-02-12 12:08:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, what is it that you want in life right now? Is this enough for you? It sounds as if you already know that you will never have anything more from this man then what you already do. What do YOU want? Personally, I think you are settling for him, possibly due to your own fears of monagamy and commitment and I think you would only be loving yourself by getting him out of your life. No one can tell you what to do, but you really need to ask yourself how much of this you can deal with, what you can't deal with and where you want to go next. With or without him.
Best wishes and good thoughts your way.
2007-02-12 12:15:14 · answer #1 · answered by yumyum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry...but you are a friend with benefits. The wonderful conversations prove the friend part - but the lack of commitment and openess about you both not being monogamous is not a good start for something further. This is a slippery slope, don't waste your energy. Enjoy what you have and keep in mind it is a "at the moment" kind of relationship, but never meant to go further. If you really want it to go further, step away, both of you take a breath (as in a few months with NO contact), try it. If you want a fighting chance at anything more than what you have you have to break the cycle. And then set the rules. If he doesn't like it - there's your answer. (by the way, don't even think about your size ) You offer him a lot, let him appreciate it, or walk away and find someone who will.
2007-02-12 20:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by misseasygoing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem here seems to be that you are in a relationship and he is not. If he'll sleep with you, but doesn't want a relationship, it's not because you're overweight. It's for the exact reason he gave you - he's a dog. He's in this for one thing - sex. I promise you he's not getting as much out of those talks as you are. He's using them to string you along and to keep the sex coming. You need to lose this loser and move on to someone who appreciates who you are, not just what you can do for him.
2007-02-12 20:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by Charles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are looking for a Monogamous relationship,
then it is time for you to leave!
If you really like the sex and the interaction with him and you
can separate that in such a way that you are not trying to
force him to be solely yours, then you should hang out
and have fun!
These are your two choices. There are no others!
2007-02-12 20:18:29 · answer #4 · answered by Crosscheck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hrmm... you could hold on if you want to. It's difficult situation you are in. Or, you could move on and find someone who can give you more than just pleasure and happiness.
2007-02-12 20:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by counterculturalist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WTF, no. I used to have a **** buddy, and he kinda reminds me of this dude........I held on for a LONG time. And i am glad that it is over. Let it go man... ya gotta let it burn, like usher...or....WHOEVER said that
2007-02-12 20:12:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋