My boyfriend has been very distant with me for the last couple of weeks. I met him last weekend and he was trying to make it up to me. He says he has so much stress at work, working till late hours as he did not get promotion from his last boss. He was pretty angry about that. Anyway, yesterday when he was leaving him, he said he needs some time alone, some time for himself. I started to cry and he tried to explain to me that he just needs to focus right now. The thing is today I texted him and asked him if we can meet this weeken and he said he has quite a lot of things to do and that he is sorry. I asked him if we are still together, he said yes and he said to me that he never said it's over. I asked him how long he needs and if it means no contact. He got a bit upset and said it does not seem like I can respect him. I am so confused, not knowing what to do? I am so scared of loosing him? I want to talk to him but he is distacing himself more and more?
2007-02-12 11:57:01 · 6 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems this guy wants to break up with you, but he doesn't know how to be the bad guy.
He wants to make you mad enough that you'll do the breaking up for him.
Skip his games and move on. Dont even text him goodbye.
He knows where to find you if he gets his head together.
Good luck - and I hope the next guy is more mature!
2007-02-12 12:01:04 · answer #1 · answered by Stan W 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My dear there are things that a man goes through that women will never understand, I dare not try to explain them all to you but here are just a few things that he may be going thou 1- he may feel like a failure at this time, when we feel like this sometimes we need to analyze where we are at in life, and where we are going, 2nd. He may just feel depressed, and all alone-in his quest to make a better life for the both of you, 3rd. he may have plans for your future and this rejection may be hurting his ego.And 4th. is not the best but should also be considered, he may torn between his affection for you and someone else, and these are just some of the things that men go through, and the fact is true that we say very little about our feelings we sometimes do need time to ourselves to just weigh things out
2007-02-12 20:20:42 · answer #2 · answered by MinO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay i know how scary this must be for you...but you need to just stop talking to him.
he says it is not over so you need to trust him and stop worrying about losing him. i worried so much about losing my last boyfriend that it ended because i was so terrified of losing him, which eventually made it happnen.
let him do whatever he needs to do, and don't call him or have any contact with him. HE will call you after he realizes "hey where did all those calls go!?!?" i sware to you.
this happened to me... and it took me a long time but i finally realized once you stop making the calls, they realize that they truly do miss the little calls they get...plus it is respecting the time that he wants to have.
also, you have to realize that YOU do have a life outside of him. that is a hard one to realize because i know it doesn't seem like it...but you truly do. you need to go and have fun with your girlfriends and hang around with other people. keep yourself busy and do not juts sit around waiting for his calls. go have fun, and you know that he will eventually call you. don't be worried and DON'T be scared of losing him...he already said that you wont so stop worrying girl!
Let this lie for a little while, then wait for him to come crawling back to you and your future relationship with him will be SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much better. Let him chase you!
2007-02-12 20:05:23 · answer #3 · answered by GirlInMassachusettTOWN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off or break it off he'll come back if he really loves you. Give him some time alone. Like don't talk to him for a little while or untill he starts a conversation.
2007-02-12 20:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by Will 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he wants space, give it to him...all u need to do is clerify that if he doesnt want to talk at all or talk to a certain extent...w/e it is- respect his wishes becuz things will go so much smoother...he just needs time...its not a break tho so dont worry- if he wants u that bad- hell come back right away...good luck!
2007-02-12 20:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
seems like you wanna be with him. so, try 2 be patient. guys need space like girls do sometimes. just hold on.
on the other hand, if there's some doubt to his credibility, then maybe your should be a little more assertive (but i'd be patient.)
2007-02-12 20:01:54 · answer #6 · answered by teeteewoods69 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋