Am only who feels angered by this?

Question

Why dose it seem that people want only kids that they birth or with their DNA? Adoption seems to be a last option if at all. We seem to be aspired to help animal shelter find home for animals then find kids (babies-teens) loving families. What should be first showing animals that they are loved or showing kids that they are loved and have worth?

I’ve never been in the system my self but my mother was and had time getting placed because of her skin tone. My uncles got placed before her and two of them had AFS. I have seen 1st hand what it can do to a person. As people don’t wanting to take on the challenge of child that has needs is BS to me there 100% health guaranty with any child.

I’m not angry that women want to have either own kids but it just strange to me that we are more worried about animals getting good homes then humans is all. As for me I never wanted to bare a child but I was blest with one. I did want to mother but never saw the need to my own custom module a child is a child and they all need love and to know that they have worth.

Answer 1

I know exactly what you mean it also angers me that people only want newborns to adopt. There are so many children out there of all ages that need homes.

Answer 2

It does bother me. But you can't make people adopt. Even though I have give birth to two of my own children. My husband and I have talked about adopting a child in the future. So many kids need loving homes. We had lots of trouble getting pregnant with our first. We never even thought about going to a fertility clinic. We just knew we would adopt. I think it's great when people adopt. I think it's even greater to adopt an older child. All children deserve love.

Answer 3

Alot of people want to try and have their own kids to carry on their name. Honestly I have never thought of adopting not b/c i want someone from my own dna and birth.. but b/c i love the whole pregnancy era... why would a women not want to try and have her own kids? yes I'm sorry that parents give up their kids and put them up for adoption... but do you know how many couples out their that can't have kids want to adopt but are disapproved b/c it is hard to adopt now a days. Fees, background checks, finances. I mean why should a loving couple who wants a child be disapproved b/c the make a $100 less then what they should be? Why are two women/ or men disapproved b/c they are gay... are they not going to provide a loving home for that child? I don't understand why its so hard to adopt.. that is why everyone is trying to adopt overseas children now.. its easier and less expensive. You shouldn't be mad b/c women who can have children want their own. Why shouldn't they have the right to birth their own child. We can't help it that 14 and up children are having kids and putting their children up for adoption b/c they were stupid and forgot to use protection. That has nothing to do with me. I want my own children... i wouldn't mind fostering kids until a couple could take them in. But I don't want to adopt while I am in the process of having my own kids.. then when we do have our own kids.. how can alot of us afford to adopt... then we would be disqualified b/c of financial situations. And you can't compare dogs to children.. that is just wrong... those are two different situations... you don't see dogs giving their puppies for adoption b/c they can't afford them or they were raped or whatever the reason is. So no I don't feel angered that women who can conceive want their own children... to look like them, watch their personalities and see who they take after. I would rather have my own children. Its not my fault their parents gave them up.. ofcourse its not their fault either... but maybe adoption agencies should lower fees and lower the financial status.... i would blame the agencies before i blame others.....

Answer 4

It doesn't make me angry so much as sad.

I do plan to try adoption after I've had one of my own. I want the full experience of motherhood, which includes the pregnancy. But when I do adopt, I'll be going for older children. It seems that when people do adopt, they want babies. Older kids need love, too!

Answer 5

i understand what you are saying and i agree. but do know that the adoption process can be VERY time consuming...it takes forever sometimes not to mention $$! then there is the fact that some kids do come with SERIOUS baggage and problems. do i think that is a reason NOT to adopt?? no! but do people see that as a detterent?? absolutly! for some they fear they might not form a bond with them because of the fact that they are not their own flesh and blood. i have babysat for many years and i DO see thier concern. do i absolutly AGREE?? nope!@ but i'm just trying to help THEIR side to be seen :) that is all

***okay as a NOTE! i was NOT talking about HEALTH PROBLEMS! i was reffering to psychological problems! i have relatives who foster and adopt. they cannot adopt all that have come into their home because of the violent and very destructive nature that some of them have. they love those kids to death and it breaks their hearts that it doesn't work out, but in that case, what can you do. i'm saying i'm NOT agianst adopting at all! but i am raising my own family at the point and when they are grown enough i WANT to foster with the intent of adoption...and i'm willing to take in teenagers too! but i do want my kids to be old enough that if the kids we take in DO have some serious issues that my kids will be old enough that they will be okay. the health issuses IS a load of crap. my aunt and uncle have taken in and adopted a baby with shaken baby syndrome. she is like 10 now. she does have some problems because of it but that doesn't matter. they have partial guardianship of twins that were born as crack babies. they WANT to adopt them but their grandmother who has custody does not want to relinquish that custody because she would no longer recieve $$ from the state. (even though my aunt & uncle are the ones that RAISE them and pay for EVERYTHING for them) like i said i am PRO addoption, but i know people who WANT to adopt but are unable to and are afraid! that is ALLLLL i was saying!

Answer 6

this is simple people have there own kids number one because it cost so dam much to adopt a child thousands of dollars that people dont have.i do get why people dont adopt but i dont get why the hell it costs so much to help a child it should be minimal dollars or free lets face it most of the people out there who want to adopt simply can not afford it so hows that one for you simple but its the absolut truth.

Answer 7

know that some people don't need to be parents and some don't have a clue to having babies or even adopting one is a bad idea. just know that the world is full children and adults that are kids at heart , its all about bring the right ones together....

Answer 8

I understand why it angers you. It angers me too. However considering that a lot of the babies that are up for adoption have fetal alchohol syndrom or have problems due to their birth mother taking drugs, I can understand why people wouldn't want to take on all that responsibility.

Answer 9

You must realize that this is a VERY personal decision for couples.
Also, men and women were made by God to procreate (a lot of them do it at VERY inappropriate times, but....)
Give people a break, we aren't here to judge others.

Answer 10

i dont understand how you think this is a huge problem
there are WAY more families looking to adopt than there are children to adopt