Last year my boyfriend cheated on me (had sex) with this girl I used to be friends with. I am not with him anymore and am no longer speaking to him. I do not talk to the girl either because that whole situation hurt me. She called me yesterday and left me a message apologizing...some people say forgive and forget, but by accepting her apology would basically justify her actions. I know right now that I will never be able to be friends with her and I do not intend to ever have a relationship with her...so should I respond to her? Or just don't even acknowledge her?
2007-02-12 11:36:14 · 18 answers · asked by her 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She knew we were together. When the whole situation occurred I confronted her about it and she just had a smirk on her face the entire time. She hooked up with my sister's ex boyfriend.
2007-02-12 11:54:58 · update #1
dont call her back or anything but if you see her in public and she tries to talk to you then accept her apology but you dont have to start being friendly. she probably just had it weighing her conscious down and needed to do something about it.
2007-02-12 11:42:16 · answer #1 · answered by Brandi P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being able to accept someone's apology does not mean you justify their behavior. When someone apologizes they are recognizing they messed up. Accepting the apology just means that you are willing to forgive and put the incident behind you. IT DOES NOT MEAN FORGET OR THAT YOU EVEN HAVE TO BE HER FRIEND AGAIN. The act of you forgiving her frees any anger/resentment you had for her, etc and helps you move on in your life. You do not have to respond to her. If you want to respond just tell her you accept her apology (only if that is true and you have no more feelings of anger toward her and the situation) and wish her well in her life. Tell her you can forgive her but still do not want her in your life as her actions ruined the relationship you had as friends.
2007-02-12 19:49:05 · answer #2 · answered by answergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, Pray about it and whatever God put into your heart, you go with it. you accept the apology so that you can start your healing process. You think about her and your ex is only hindering you in the long run. You can accept the apology but you do not have to be friends with the tramp. Your not giving her justification to her cheating with your ex boyfriend. She is the one who cross the mine that should have never been crossed by any means. Forgive and move forward. No one said you had to forget.
2007-02-12 19:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by michellej 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very commendable to forgive. Listen to her and tell her you accept her apology and you hope that she learned from her mistake and doesn't do this to anyone else. Also inform her that you were too hurt by this to ever trust her, therefore you find it impossible to rekindle any friendship. Maybe this will help both of you to put this in the past. ><>
2007-02-12 19:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by 4-GivenbyJC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am one that totally believes in forgiving. I would accept her appology, but I would never trust her again. I am not so sure a friend ship would be in the calling either.
Good glad you left the guy. I would never go back to him or trust him again
2007-02-12 19:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by sandra_k19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving her does not justify her actions at all. It's just forgiveness. You don't have to be friends with her to let her be sorry and to let her transgression recede into the past. I say allow her to apologize, tell her all is well and let it go.
2007-02-12 19:40:26 · answer #6 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive and forget is the best policy. You have to forgive her for you. You don't have to be friends with her, but forgiveness has to happen or you will never be able to move on. Good luck babe!
2007-02-12 19:40:37 · answer #7 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this girl didn't know that he was your boyfriend at the time, I think you should forgive her. But if she did know and did it all behind your back, you should just ignore her apology.
2007-02-12 19:40:29 · answer #8 · answered by Jeitari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheater always a cheater. Forgiving isn't so good anymore. I would say try say i forgive you and yea and if she does it or he does it again well, let's just say... he needs to get a life and move on, girl!
2007-02-12 19:39:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is ignore her, since you don't know how to forgive her. You shouldn't be friends with her anyway. She's not a real friend.
2007-02-12 19:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋