I am not a bad looking guy(so i have been told) but my problem is i am very shy how do get over this problem?

Answer 1

Booze.

Answer 2

lol i have the same problem!! Both boys and girls go through this. But here are a few pointers that may help you :)
1.

Conversation Topics-never leave home without them. Good conversationalists are rarely at a loss for words because: 1) they do so many things and go so many places that they have lots to talk about or 2) they prepare. Good conversationalists never leave home without something to say to the people they think they'll be seeing that day. If they're going to a party, they brush up on topics of interest to the people they know will be attending. Before returning to work on a Monday, they think about the activities their colleagues had planned for the weekend. They brush up on current events, the weather and anything else that might be the small-talk they need to get a conversation going or to keep it going. Never leave home without at least a half-dozen things to talk about. [See how business people prepare.]

Note---this may seem like a lot of work at first, but you'll be surprised. As you get in the habit of preparing things to say each day, the preparation phase will become so automatic, you won't even notice you're doing it anymore. At least not until you do what most of us do. You get lazy. And you'll know when it happens, too. You'll start running out of things to say and it will be harder to carry on conversations with people---even people you know quite well. But don't despair. Just get back with the program and prepare!

2.

Let people know you're shy. This is a controversial subject. Some people recommend that you never tell people you're shy, because people will use that information to label you. Then again, if you avoid people, look down instead of making eye contact, stammer and stutter or turn three shades of purple when you're uncomfortable in social situations, people are going to draw conclusions of their own and odds are they'll be less favorably impressed with you than if you just tell it like it is---that you're nervous or feeling shy. (main point)

Hope that Helps :)

Answer 3

I am shy too and attractive and its ok to by shy, but if there is something that you want in life go get it and never look back or think what if.

Or dont put urself down if the other person says no. it means it wasnt meant to be dont degrade yourself when things go wrong. Everytime you take a step forward it gives you confidence.

Good Luck get out there and give it your best shot. :) Ciao

Answer 4

Start putting yourself in situations that would make you nervous or shy. If it makes you act this way then do it, is what I can tell you. Its kind of like practicing. Don't be afraid to talk to girls no matter how pretty they are or how nervous they make you, or how shy you get. Put yourself in situations that you know you would react this way to (the shyness).

Its kind of like training a horse not to spook. If you shake a plastic bag in its face, consistently, eventually the horse isn't as afraid as it was in the beginning.

You just got to train yourself! Good luck!

Answer 5

i am a very shy girl but i am way more confident now than i was. the best thing would be to take a risk. life is way more satisfying if you do. what can you lose? you'll be happy with the decision in the long run. remember life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, its about learning to dance in the rain. :) good luck <3

Answer 6

If you got someone you like, maybe you can start off with friend stuffs, you know, like hang out, watch movies, with other friends too if you like, until you feel comfortable and get some confident, then you go on hang out just the two of you, then maybe something could go on from there. Good luck!

Answer 7

Just start at "the bottom of the food chain" and work your way up. Start with some aquantantses (sry bout spelling) then work upwards from there. It rly easy if you got "the hookup"

Answer 8

Find activities or join a club based around something you like or are interested in.

Having something in common to talk with other people about will help you overcome your shyness.

Answer 9

Being shy is not a problem. I dig the shy guys. Just be yourself, girls like guys to be themselves, don't go changing to please others or you will end up being the unhappy one.
Be yourself shyguy! ;)

Answer 10

Take a deep breath, talk to the target (don't plan it), and remember, when in doubt, just whip it out*




*may result in rape charges.