I have been a crossdresser for many years, however I only dress and go out every few months on average. I am very passable as a female with my appearance...now speech is another topic...lol. I have done this for roleplay and excitement only, never to disrespect another female. I am not gay or bi-sexual and the places that I have attended are generally accepting of all alternative lifestyle people. This is to stay out of trouble. My question is: when is the right time to tell a woman you dating? You just don't walk up to someone in a club and say hi my name is "such" and I am a crossdresser. You need time but what is that time? Also, what are your true thoughts on crossdressing males?
2007-02-12 11:33:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have a friend who cd's. Same as you, not gay or bi-sexual. He was honest with me right upfront, and I care deeply for him. I'm married, so I would not pursue him that way, but if I was single, I might. Clothes don't make a man, the person does. Honesty is the best key, you need someone that will accept this. If you tend for this to be serious and you don't have any intentions of stopping the cd'ing, you need to be honest and tell her. Good luck and for me, no, it is only clothing!
2007-02-12 11:39:36 · answer #1 · answered by flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd imagine if you are openly admitting something like this, you've already done a lot of self-discovery and know who you are. If this is a core part of yourself, and you know that you aren't going to be happy in a relationship with a girl that cannot accept this, then you should tell her sufficiently early on in the relationship. It's not fair to either of you to pop this out late into the relationship after everyone has invested a lot of emotions. Some women can accept this. Some won't. Not on the first date, certainly. I would imagine at the point in your relationship when you feel comfortable and an trust her, that would be an appropriate time. If the two of you met in an alternative venue, then perhaps you can tell her a little earlier on. I don't really know. I've never been in that situation. I'm just writing how I feel. So take that with a grain of salt. As for my thoughts on it, I don't really know. Never had to confront that part of myself. The only thing that I can say is that a good man is really hard to find. I know that. If this is his hang-up and I love everything else about him, then so be it. I can probably learn to live with it.
Good luck.
2007-02-12 11:50:27 · answer #2 · answered by Elisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it easily relies upon on the female. i have been married for 22 years and that i understand that my spouse has damaging emotions in route of crossdressing adult men, so I actually have not in any respect informed her. Now, i in my view am fairly satisfied. i'm fortunate that my paintings helps me to commute regularly sufficient to fullfull my crossdressing needs. the most suitable aspect i'd like is to have a lady who isn't excited through my dressing "tollerating it". i imagine which will be type of egocentric on my area, and considering maximum female are not any further grew to grow to be on through it, i'm very content cloth to have a mind-blowing loving spouse who fulfills all my needs (and they are many) except one. on the different hand, if she looks useful about different crossdressers (perhaps take her to a educate to gage her opinion), then I consider maximum, once you're going to inform her, tell her early, because it gained't get a lot less complicated with time.
2016-12-04 02:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by lesure 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before having sex for the first time. Oh wait.... That's for STDs. :)
When would you tell her you smoke weed? Or hunt? Or follow a band around the country? (Hey, I miss the Dead). Or think Hillary would make a great president?
They're all things that'll cause the other person to judge you. They shouldn't be treated all that differently.
Maybe the time is when you go up to someone in a club and say "Hi I'm Mike but sometimes I'm Michelle", before either of you has made an investment in time.
And I'd probably say "cool. Let's chat." It doesn't mean it would go any further but, hey, your foot's in the door. :)
2007-02-12 23:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by Meg W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you got enough charm... you could get away with some heels and makeup ;)
personally i think the transvestite/comedian Eddie Izzard is sexy
check out the video "dressed to kill" it's funny stuff
and he's a straight man... point being if your a smart and intelligent guy. some people may still be uncomfortable with your crossdressing... but you can win them over <3
2007-02-12 11:47:51 · answer #5 · answered by aletheia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont have to tell a chick the first time you ask her out, but maybe on the first or second date? the sooner the better.... you'd skip out having that awkward time when she finally finds out and breaks up with u.
2007-02-12 11:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by graciedai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but I never met one, and if thats what you like to do, then go for it. I would wait awhile until you get to know your girlfriend. and when your talking just ask her what she thinks about crossover. and when she tell you yes or not go from there. good luck.
2007-02-12 11:37:31 · answer #7 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soon before the relationship gets more involved!
2007-02-12 11:37:14 · answer #8 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your in denial! you want to be a girl,feel sexy,so why not fess up you really like to be butt f***** and you might as well be a gay man
2007-02-12 11:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when u r confident she loves u
2007-02-15 18:35:39 · answer #10 · answered by john 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋