After 2 years of marriage and endless discussions on when to have a child, how many to have and names, hubby and i never discussed how we would discipline our child. We both received spankings as children. I am against it and he is for it (as a last resort). In a month or so our twins will be born and I am afraid this subject will not be resolved before then. Has anyone else faced this and how did you resolve it?
2007-02-12 11:25:01 · 7 answers · asked by chriscornelluv@sbcglobal.net 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
try to keep an open mind about discipline each child is different. what may work for one twin may not work for other. I was on your side about spanking while I was pregnant. After trying every else I tried the spanking thing it works in some instance with children of certain types of personalty's. I talked my son's doc about what to do and he asked me why I was against it? For me it was because of the fear of taking it too far as it been done to me. So he suggest that we (my husband and I) talk about what actions will get what reactions. Trust me the first time your child runs into drive way as daddy car pulls up you may have a change of heart. Try to keep an open mind.
2007-02-12 12:15:24 · answer #1 · answered by lady_jane_az 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to discuss this, work out your plan of action and make sure you back each other up. You may not like what he does an he may not like what you do. That is a discussion for private and NOT in front of the kids. You don't want them playing one parent against another, and they will if you let this happen.
2007-02-12 19:50:12 · answer #2 · answered by biancajh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you believe the bible is Holy go to proverbs, spanking is the way to go, children need discipline in the way of spanking. I know people who were spanked and grew up well adjusted, college educated, and happy. Your husband is correct.
Start at around one year, a simple little smack, but be consistent. i.e. if he constanly grabs things he shouldn't; he will learn the word 'no'. It may save his life.
2007-02-12 19:35:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
whatever your decision about discipline is make sure that you both agree on it because if not it just doesnt work right. I say Time Outs when they are old enough.
2007-02-12 19:45:58 · answer #4 · answered by abbs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you married your husband you vowed to love, honor, trust, and obey him so to do this trust his judgment. Do you honestly think he wants to hurt your children. Don't worry over it it will work itself out. Indiscipline your child means to teach them. Which I am sure if you do a good job of, you most likely won't have to do much spanking.
2007-02-12 19:41:01 · answer #5 · answered by Sara G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the only thing you can do is explain to him how you feel you never know he mite feel the same way my husband and i don't always agree with how we discipline are son but we try to find a middle that we both feel comforable about.
2007-02-12 19:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by Misti 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to talk to hubby. please if you can avoid it dont spank. we cant tell you how to handle this you and hubby need to sit down talk and agree together
2007-02-12 19:29:02 · answer #7 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋