Autistic child, how do I find out, who do I talk to, any parents with autistic child, if so your thoughts?

Question

My son at the age of 2 started to demonstrate peculiar behaviors, the ability to identify letters/numbers forward, backwards, and upside down, he new the TV schedule of programs at 4ish years of age, he does constantly suck his thumb, when asked a question he reverts his response to other focal points or interests, he is very speeched delayed, there is no way to really discipline becuase he doesnt care, I talk to him and tell him why is being punished, I take away privelages he doesnt care at all

He is very hyper and can interact with others somewhat, he is very loving but become very mean and hateful, and temper, I am running out of patience he is 5 and I do sense something is wrong as a mother and it is killing me inside what about our future any parents with autistic children who respond this will understand symptoms, but if any sarcasm is on a post all I can say is you'll be in my prayers and I will hope God works in your heart to understand mental health issues. THANK YOU ALL

I really of course love my son, my but when you love your child and he isnt sure how to love you back with kind words it breaks your heart and in my heart I a hurting I just dont know what to do, I dont want to diagnos my child but I cant live with thios stress

Answer 1

My 7 year old nephew is autistic. He can be very loving, and wants lots of attention. But then he withdraws and paces back and forth for hours. He is very good with numbers and loves to count. I would suggest, just take your sons strengths and work on those encourage him in his strong areas. My nephew also has a robot language, it is hard for us to understand him sometimes, but eventually we get it out of him. He loves robots that is why we call it the robot language. For punishment, the only thing that seems to work is when my brother puts him in the corner for something he has done, that seems to work out. I hope you find a good support system in your area, and like I said encourage his strengths, Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 2

You may not want a diagnosis, but the longer you wait to get him therapy and help the harder his life will be. Early intervention is the key, whether you go through the state, or private therapy, or get trained yourself to learn how to deal with all the issues you stated.

You cannot parent a child with autism the same way you do another child, whether it be discipline or expectations. I would highly suggest you find a developmental specialist and not only do an complete evaluation to see where he is and what is actually a problem, but also to get suggestions for parenting and discipline.

I have two kids with autism. WIthout help they wouldn't be nearly as well off as they are now, at 12 and 9. I would probably also be insane, because the way they think is not how every one else thinks. You will need an interpreter, so to speak, to understand the anger, frustration and delays. Kids with autism can become very depressed, and many attempt suicide from depression. Please find help before he gets older and things get worse.

Answer 3

My son was diagnosed with Autism at the age of 4. I always knew there was something wrong, but could never put my finger on it. He was head banging by the age of 1. Wasn't talking at the age of 3. He lived in his own world. He was and still is terrified of people. The tempertantrums were more than I could handle. I took him to the doctor a lot, and got no where. Finally I took him to a peditrician, who gave us a diagnosis of PDD ( Pervasive developmental disorder). I got several referrals to pediactric developmental phyciatrists.When we got to that point we got the final diagnosis. Mild Autism. That may not sound bad at first sight, but along the spectrum scale, my son is pretty far down(I would have rather had the diagnosis of PDD). My son was 4 when he was diagnosed. These kids need to be diagnosed as soon as possible.Dont waste any time, get to the doctor. "The sooner you do the better it will be for your child. The tempertantrums were my sons way of showing his fustration of not being able to communicate with us. He now knows sign language, uses a pecs book , and is starting to talk at the age of 5. I get respite services from the state, I get help through the schools. There is no cure for autism, but there is a chance at gaining some ground, bringing him back, my son is talking now, not so great, but its coming,his anxiety attacks arent so bad anymore, temportantrums are fading. Its taken a lot to get to this point. Speach therapy, OT, nurses aids ect..., fighting with politicans, fighting with the school systems, but in the end, it was and still is worth it. There is so much I would love to share with you, but space is limited. If you ever need someone to talk to you can email me anytime!!

Answer 4

My son,now 11YO,survived a stroke at 6 weeks of age and is severely brain damaged.He has Autistic like behaviors and communication is a big key.He is completely non verbal,we use ASL(American Sign Language)You could also take pictures of his daily life,clothes,.... and have him point to what he wants,(toys,snack,bed,..) School will test him and he will have an IEP(Individulized Education Plan).With my son during the melt downs I hold him close and keep reaasuring him he is a good boy,I love him,it will be ok.Dicipline is difficult,just be consistant,is there something he really enjoys you could take away or try putting him in his room ,saying this behavior is unacceptable,when you are ready to talk,come see me,best wishes,I hope you get some answers,Robin

Answer 5

God never gives you more than you can handle. Be very patient with your child because he doent understant the redirection yet . If you live in NY You can call an agency called Ahrc,based in Bohemia NY or Look online for info in your area. Help is available. the calmer and patient that you are the better your child will respond and remember you have been blessed and God has trusted you to care for him. Never give up, Try your local school district for help it will be available. there are many great programs out there start with your school district first but stay in control of your temper even though that is easier said than done-You will be fine I promise just hang in there. You will learn so much from your special child hes counting on you good luck

Answer 6

Please don't accept any diagnosis offered in the answers here. Your description is too vague and your child is too important. It sounds like there could be something going on beyond willful behavior. If you live in the US, many school systems have early intervention programs available through the public school system or through social services organizations that can evaluate your child effectively and provide guidance on development. Your child's physician can also provide some insight. There are many programs available without cost to help determine the cause of the issues you describe and create a program to help your child develop. Please seek them out. Unconditional love is probably the most important aspect of dealing with a special needs child. The rewards can be enormously fulfilling......

Good luck and God Bless,
Yack

Answer 7

You need to get him some help. Get him diagnosed and go to the doctor. I know it's scary to hear that he's autistic, but you need to know the truth so you can help him. They can recommend you to a therapist, get you into a support group and interacting with other parents who have the same problems. Your son's temper is probably due to frustration at not being able to communicate-or it could be due to a break in routine-autistic children MUST have a routine. I have two autistic cousins and I know what I'm talking about.

Answer 8

First stop is your GP. He will be able to refer you to the right specialist to have your son assessed. If he has started school, they may have a school psychologist who can do this assessment for you. There are great programs available for early intervention these days and lots of support for parents who have children with autism. With the right intervention and the right environment, there is hope that your son will 'grow out of' his behaviours and becoming a well adjusted functioning member of society.

You have done such a fantastic job so far, keep it up! Good luck!

Answer 9

if he is not diagnosed yet as autistic i would take him to his doctor i have worked with two children who are autistic they demonstrate some of the characteristic's as your son but not all of them. look at the signs on the link i provided and it may help but i would still take him to his doctor who is better to diagnose him they me or anyone else who is not educated in this area.

Answer 10

this all doesn't necessarily mean Autism. Get a referral to a paediatrician (if you have a local Children's hospital get it for there as they have more resources). You need to get him assessed as soon as possible so if there is any problems you can get started on early intervention as soon as possible