ok well i'm getting my license in like 2 days and my parents have been hinting around that they are getting me a car... ok well before all this hinting around and junk, they flat out told me i wasn't getting a car, so my hopes were like on zero, but after hearing all the talk about cars, they've like shot through the roof, well tonight they're like...yeah we don't have the money for a car...so i'm like on this roller coaster... and i flat out told my mom that I'm not getting a job unless i can drive myself, which i dont think is too unreasonable, because i believe that a major part of getting a job is the freedom of driving yourself there... she thinks I'm totally crazy, because the money i could make having a job could EVENTUALLY get me a car....we are totally not in any form of agreement...what do you think???
2007-02-12 11:02:36 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
has anyone ever told any of you that they would do something for you and had your hopes up so...high and then they tell you that they decided that they wouldn't do it?? i mean seriously...its not just about a car or how selfish and immature the majority of you think I'm being...it's that i feel that they have lied to me and that's something that i cant stand... they could've left it at the whole...we dont have enough money thing to begin with and I would be ok with it, but now they go around saying they have almost $3000 they can spend on me a car and decide not to get one...honestly...how would you feel??
2007-02-12 11:34:13 · update #1
Get a job then a car.
2007-02-12 11:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by tired 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The major part of getting a job is to make money, which you can then buy your own car with. I don't know how old you are but.....having and keeping a job is a sign of maturity. Something you should have if your even going to have a LICENSE. Try talking with your parents....maybe they would consider helping you pay for a car (1/2 the cost or something) if you could come up with the other half by working. Think about it...
2007-02-12 11:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by deblynn826 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents had always said they will contribute $500 towards my first car. I just so happened to find a bargain for $500 and so you could say, my parents bought me my first car. It was NOTHING to look at and had a few minor problems, but got me to work and before long, I bought a new car (2nd hand of course) for $4000 all by myself. I now have a brand new car (not 2nd hand) worth $17,000 because I worked hard for it.
Perhaps you could come to an agreement with your parents where they contribute an amount they are happy with and you can buy a bomb to get you started. Get a job and you can upgrade later, it will be an achievement!
2007-02-12 11:19:25 · answer #3 · answered by missdre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will this job of yours be able to pay for the car upkeep, gas and insurance? Having a car is a big responsibility. Not only the cost of the car but the responsibility of other peoples lives. I'm not sure where you got the idea that having a job is your right of passage to a car. Use the bus for awhile and prove to your parents you are mature enough for the added responsibility. Good Luck.
2007-02-12 11:12:40 · answer #4 · answered by JENNY J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you're turning 16....Most 16 year olds are not nearly responsible enough to have a car. Saying you won't drive just because you can't drive yourself is childish. I'm not trying to insult you but pouting will not help your situation, I tried that with my parents and it got me no where. Could you possibly compromise and be allowed to drive one of your parents cars to work until you saved up enough to put a down payment on a car. If not is there anywhere close to where you live that you could walk to work. Even if the "walk to" job is not ideal, it can just be temporary until you have some money saved up. Good luck.
2007-02-12 11:11:26 · answer #5 · answered by Carrie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your parents are right, get a job, then your own car, I find it incredible that you would even put such an unreasonable ultimatum out there! it seems like this generation of teens is spoiled rotten... I know it's not the answer you want, but it's still true.
your added details are not going to change our minds, it just adds to the perception that you are not mature enough for the responsibility of driving yet...life is full of disappointment, learn to deal with it. the only thing your parents did wrong was to raise you to be such a spoiled brat!
2007-02-12 11:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very expensive to get a car.....I think you should offer to get a job and save all the money to help with the downpayment on said car.....and then you can SAVOR and ENJOY the freedom of driving yourself to work. Cars are NOT CHEAP and neither is insurance for teens....your parents don't OWE you a car, it would be a priveledge. Stop acting like a brat....they probably feel pretty badly that they can't afford to get you one.
2007-02-12 11:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no hun, a major part of getting a job is working, and working hard at the jobs teenagers get,,, i suggest trying to work out a compromise,,,,, save your job money towards a car,,, see if they will add some to it,,,, in the mean time, ask if you can drive the family car to work a couple of days a week,,,, i assume you will be working at night, or late afternoons and weekends,,,,,,,,,, if they will not agree to that, just get a job and save your money,,,,, towards your car, and car insurance,,,,,,,be happy you have rent and food for free, and can put most of the money towards the car, set yourself aside a certain amount to spend, whether for clothes or fun,,,, and save most of it
it could be that they had hoped to get you a car, then realized they couldnt afford it, or else decided it would mean more to you if you earned it,,,,,,
2007-02-12 11:08:20 · answer #8 · answered by dlin333 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can come to a happy medium, How about you go to work and take your money and match $ per $ with you mom and that way. You earned it and she was able to help you
Don't forget you still have to pay for registration and Insurance and they unforeseen repairs. So either way you have to work.
Alto of people do take a bus and save for a car. Driving is a privilege it is not a right
2007-02-12 11:08:33 · answer #9 · answered by judy b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the exact same thing with my parents. They "don't have the money for a car", and say i should get a job to pay for one myself. But how do they expect me to get there? They just don't understand that they need to start us off somewhere. So i can't really help you since i'm in the same problem, but your definetely not alone!
2007-02-12 11:08:13 · answer #10 · answered by turntabl3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋