okay, im dating this guy. we've been dating for almost 8 months. my parents dont like him. they think he's too old for me, and that all he wants me foris to "get in my pants". he's 16, and im 13. i really love him, and i know thats not him. but, my parents say as soon as he turns 17, they're going to take him to court. i couldnt let that happen. but, i really dont know what to do. he's really nice. he would give his life for me. and, he has stayed by when i was sick, when my mom went out to dinner with my dad. because she felt like it. nothing special, because she felt like it was all. i had strep! i was sick for like a week and a half. he was there everyday. she was there for like 3 hours the who time. so, should i break up with him? try to get my parents to understand? (which i've already tried. it's not working out too well.) or any other suggestions? im basically desperate. help. please?
2007-02-12 10:57:50 · 10 answers · asked by danielle m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're parents are concerned that he isn't man enough to understand and care about you. So they feel they need to protect you from him. You shouldn't do anything. Your boyfriend and you should invite your parents out to a nice dinner. You guys have to pay. While you are at dinner, your boyfriend needs to address their fears. He can start by saying "I understand that you have some reservations about your daughter and I seeing each other. I hope that we can come to some understanding, because your daughter means quite a bit to me. I like .............about her. He also needs to tell them that he has plans for the future - career, college goals, etc. And that he knows you have plans. He needs to stress to them that he would never do anything to jeopardize your future.
Then the two of you need to ask your parents what compromise the four of you can come to regarding your relationship. Do not threaten. And let him handle as much of the conversation as possible. You may have to tolerate your parents limiting which days you can see him or under what circumstance, but at least you will still be together.
2007-02-12 11:07:36 · answer #1 · answered by jamminsnurk2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want him bad then tell them it's your life and they have no right to take him to court if he doesn't do anything wrong. Also make you boyfriend invite you and your parents to dinner, this will be a nice gesture and could make your parents like him more and maybe reach an understanding or something. Another good idea is to ask your parents what they don't like about him and tell him so when you go have dinner with him and your parents he won't be that way and your parents will have to reconsider.
'Wait till you're older to have sex and make sure your parents know that you're not gona have sex until you're older. Ignore pressure and if you agree to have sex remember it's BOTH your fault if something happens make sure your parents know this too.
One more thing since you're 13 and he's 16 it's a big difference at such a young age. If he was 30 and you were 27 it would no make a difference. Tell him to expect a break up because you're too young and he's too old and that you could still be (very close) friends. And maybe if when you're 15-16 and he doesn't have a girlfriend you could become boy/girlfriends again.
2007-02-12 11:05:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, you are only 13...no offense, but you are too young and immature to know what love is and to have any kind serious relationship.
Heads up...this won't be the last bf you have and it definately won't be the last bf your parents dislike. Your parents are only worried about your well-being and know what is best for you.
Maybe you and your bf should take a break or see other people. You are just too young to be involved in a relationship.
2007-02-12 11:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by ajd1bmf 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should break the realationship up and become friends. As soon as you turn 16 be with him again. Theres too much of an age differnece and you are still young. Just give yourself some time.
2007-02-12 11:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-03 07:02:04 · answer #5 · answered by dewulf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think all these ppl are crazy! i dont think they know what its like to be in love. If i were u...but it would depend how close u r to your parents, but, LIE YOUR *** OFF! come home crying one day they'll ask wats wrong and say i broke up with him. but dont really! I'd definatly stay with him! PARENTS DO NOT KNOW BEST! 3 years is not that bad of an age difference...wats the age difference betweem ur parents? i wouldnt be suprised if its 3 years or more!
2007-02-12 11:13:37 · answer #6 · answered by myaschneidz 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sorry honey i think breaking up would be best for him
I mean, he'll be crushed, but isn't it better than him being taken to court?
That could ruin your relationship anyways.
He sounds amazing but it's too complicated
goodluck with whaatever you do =]
2007-02-12 11:03:06 · answer #7 · answered by Maddy G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go, he dosent need that kind of trouble in his life. Unless of course your relationship with him is completly not physical. I mean, the farthest you could go is making out. If its like that, then you should stick with it, he sounds good for you.
2007-02-12 11:03:10 · answer #8 · answered by azº 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. It's too early in your life to hurt your parents. Plus, they're right.
2007-02-12 11:02:38 · answer #9 · answered by Christopher A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents know best, even if they dont want what you want. and that is a pretty big age difference.
2007-02-12 11:02:00 · answer #10 · answered by lalalaa123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋