There is a man that I know and he's been flirting with me. My friends say he wants me because they've seen him look at me. He has this certain look in his eye, bedroom eyes.
He's been staring, always talking to me, rubbing my shoulders, arms, back and we've hugged. He saw me wearing really short shorts and he tapped me, smiling. When my friend and I were waiting for something, he ignored her and asked me what we were waiting for. I get jealous when he's talking to other females. I've been kind of ignoring him (looking away from him and not starting conversation) and I can see him looking at me out of the corner of my eyes. Today, I almost ran into him and I apologized. He rubbed my back and watched me walk away.
He invited me to be alone with him for lunch detention (months ago) so I could clean the classroom. That's not what LD is. My friends thought that he was planning to make a move on me so I didn't go. He seemed visibly upset with me afterwards.
I HAD a crush on him.
2007-02-12 10:57:42 · 8 answers · asked by darkskinnedxbeauty 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is TOTALLY WRONG! I don't know how old you are, but my late husband was a high school English instructor and not only would he NEVER behave this way with a student in his school, he could expect to be fired if it even APPEARED that he was. And further, he would probably have trouble ever getting another position teaching.
Whether or not you have a crush on him doesn't matter. This is not your fault! Please, please tell someone at school about his behavior. It's so wrong for him to arrange to be alone with you, for him to touch you in any way and for him to behave in ways that make you uncomfortable.
Tell a guidance counselor, another teacher, or the principle. He shouldn't be allowed to prey upon female students and I can tell you that you are NOT the only one. It's an absolute CERTAINTY that he is touching, flirting and meeting with other female students as well and if you accept any of his advances you are no more than one in a long line of conquests.
So please, honey, do yourself and other girls a favor, turn this guy in and get him out of the school system. He is making things hard for decent male teachers everywhere.
2007-02-12 11:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by Ande 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's creepy and it's wrong. If you are under 18 and he's older than that, it is also against the law to be rubbing any student.
You need to bring this up to other teacher that you can trust, the guidance counselor, or the principal so they can do an investigation. You need to tell your parents so they can push the authorities to investigate. In the mean time, you need to limit your interactions with this man. What you are describing is inappropriate. Whether you have or had a crush on him is irrelevant. He's not allowed to respond, encourage, or make advances on you.
2007-02-12 19:07:47 · answer #2 · answered by Elisa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a senior this year..and I know from experience that these kinds of things don't work out. Usually, we (the girls) go goo goo because someone that we admire likes us (or so we think). But in reality, if this guy is any good at all, he wouldn't go for you, because he needs to respect the fact that he could get FIRED for being in a relationship with you. Please don't try to make a move yourself, and if he does, then that proves that he is not respecting you nor himself.
If he's the right guy for you, then he'll wait until you're out of high school.
Also, sometimes if we're expecting someone to pay attention to us, any attention they give us will be magnified in our mind. So, maybe he's really not looking at you out of the corner of his eye.
About the physical stuff....from what you've said, he admires you physically. This is bad. All he wants is your body probably. Try to be modest for like a week, and see if he still acts the same.
I haven't mentioned the age difference yet, but I will. Actually, I won't because you probably can figure that one out for yourself.
Please be careful..some guys are not what we think. Some are sick and perverted, even if they don't seem that way at first. If you really like him, then remain friends, but NEVER let him touch you physically because he could get fired easily. Then, when you're out of high school you can pursue a relationship with him.
Okay..I'm done now. : )
Good luck!
2007-02-12 19:11:58 · answer #3 · answered by morethanitseems 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he should make a move on you, leave quickly & tell someone. This can be very dangerous, both sexually & physically, not to mention phsycologically. Do NOT be alone with this man ever. It is not unusual for a student to have a crush on a teacher but it is wrong for a teacher to behave this way with a student & if you are still in High school or Jr. high, it is against the law.
2007-02-12 19:08:24 · answer #4 · answered by mazell41 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey, well definetly do not be alone with him and tell authority, either your principle or/ and parents and have this man arrested or whatever other punishment it may be, whether getting him fired or whatever is needed because this isn't right, and although you had a crush on him, which i think is pretty normal in girls your age cause it is, for him to behave in that manner isn't right and you could get into serious trouble, trouble you aren't looking for, cause you are probably thinking of it in an innocent way meanwhile he's thinking of it another way, and its not good. please becareful and let authority know. take care. Good Luck
2007-02-12 19:08:50 · answer #5 · answered by latina ♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a relationship with my teacher in H.S. and it ended weird. I've been there and done that...from the perch i sit on now, it was a waste of a year and a half...
I'd probably say just ignore it...he's just lusting after you...
2007-02-12 19:10:05 · answer #6 · answered by FavoredbyU 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell the principle and if you think he will come after you tell the police teachers can not do this to students its discustign and wrong he can not possibly love you or liek you he will hurt you get away from him!
2007-02-12 19:02:47 · answer #7 · answered by J-Dep 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is your teacher, he has no right to touch you in any way, shape, or form. I would tell your parents what he's doing.
2007-02-12 19:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋