I have been involved with M for 4 1/2 years . Something happened 3 1/2 years ago that M will not let go( I got into an argument and ripped his shirt in front of people) We worked together and I said and did things I should not have. That has all changed and have not done it in 3 years. II treat him good and shower him with love and attention. He made me believe things would get better dont give up, soon, I love you. All the while he knew he lost the love along time ago. Yet he kept on letting me give and all he did was take. He treated me awful and like a fool I hung in there. I guess I wanted to believe we would marry someday, that I would get the ring someday like he told me. Other than those words everything he said and did proved differently. I am to blame for putting up with this and not walking away but is he more in the wrong for leading me on?
2007-02-12 10:46:26 · 8 answers · asked by jweggie1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have wasted 41/2 years of your life! No one can "make" you do something you do not want to do so you are complicit in the arrangement you had with him. I think you need counselling to help you find out more about yourself and your needs in order for you to find healthier relationships.
2007-02-12 10:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by jom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to walk away from someone that you love....it is even harder to walk away from someone that makes you feel like you are messing up all the time and that you are the one to blame....went through the same thing....my boyfriend blamed me for everything and i would try so hard to make him happy but he wasn't and he lead me on too....believed we'd get married all that.....you should have walked away and I bet you see that now, but sometimes you just don't know how.....it's a lesson that is hard to learn, but next time I bet you will walk away before things ever get bad like that with your next boyfriend......your boyfriend knew he didn't care like he use to...and that is so wrong to be with someone you don't care about and you take their selfesteem down on purpose.....what he did was one of the worst things you can do to a person....hurt them on purpose is wrong....he is more wrong than you...
2007-02-12 18:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you still in this???
I think you need to seperate and let him find out how he feels on his own.
If he was changed for good, you are wasting your time.
Suggest a break if you are not already split.
And don't humiliate the next guy. Its important to have control so that your partner can trust you..... I'm sure you know this already.
Its unfortunate, but I wish you luck.
2007-02-12 18:53:05 · answer #3 · answered by cathoratio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way is this your fault. It's not your fault if you love him. He's the one who used you remember. Don't blame yourself for his mistake. If you want to stay with him talk it over. but if you think you could be in a better situation don't put up with it and brake it off. Good luck and trust your heart.
2007-02-12 18:52:57 · answer #4 · answered by *Dancer 4 ever* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes wrong for leading you on
and your human nature is wrong for wanting what you want, to happen
2007-02-12 18:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by Mr_wall2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-02-12 18:50:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knew a sucker when he saw one.
2007-02-12 18:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by dreamgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
??dont understand??
2007-02-12 18:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by Kayle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋