My boyfriend was talkin to my cousin and the day after they started talking he asked her out. Would it be acceptable to cheat on him for payback. He didn't get mad when a friend of mine beeped him and said I was hanging all over some guy at church (which I wasn't) He was trying to see if it would make him mad. So is it acceptable to cheat on him for payback?
2007-02-12 10:44:16 · 42 answers · asked by picture_perfect 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The thing about it is my boyfriend (soon to be ex) is 16 and my cousin is 11 she will be 12 on V-Day. I hate it though because not only do I have that problem but there's this guy that I like that I was walking around my church with and I hugged him and kissed his cheek and he didn't kiss mine like he normally does (he is the one who started it) and he started to walk away and I said well no kiss for me then? and I meant on the cheek and he came up there and kissed me on the lips even though he knew I was having a hard time in my relationship and that I like him. He once called me at 1:00 in the morning b/c I asked him to and my b/f doesn't even call me when he tells me he will. We used to talk everyday and now we talk maybe 1ce or 2ice every 2 or 3 days. And the guy that kissed me he is so sweet and when I hugged him, he wouldn't let me go so I was standing there for like 5 minutes hugging him and I was a/b to have to leave and b4 the kiss, I asked him a/b breakin ^ and he yea!
2007-02-12 11:10:26 · update #1
Does the guy that kissed me like me and should I break up with my b/f for that guy? Please help me! I need as much advice as I can get! Thanks!
2007-02-12 11:11:26 · update #2
Two wrongs don't make a right. It's NEVER okay to cheat, whether you feel it's justice or revenge or anything else.
If you cheat, you okay yourself to be cheated on. Did you like it when you learned he cheated? If not, then why take an action that says "it's okay if I get cheated on because I'm a cheater too".
Treat others as you'd like to be treated. Either work this issue out, or leave him. Don't build up the bad karma for yourself by cheating to get back at him...you'll just end up hurting yourself in the long run.
2007-02-12 10:47:58 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi...well i am very sorry to hear that your boyfriend would cheat on you...especially with your own cousin, but i would not recommend you cheat on him for payback. I too have been a victim of being cheated on and it is such a terrible thing to do. I personally am not the revengeful type and do not recommend you do that because once you do cheat on him, you will be doing the exact same thing he did to you. Two wrongs don't make a right... BUT if you think it will make you feel better then... technically you are single so it wouldn't be "cheating". It's really up to you! Take care.
2007-02-12 10:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by her 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The relationship is already over if one or the other has cheated on the other. It is too too childish and stupid to try to get pay back like that! And you're no better than him if you do that! If you want to stay with him, ignor him, make him feel bad about it and guilty, but not to bad that he is scared to talk about it to you, or talk at all. Everyone loves some degree of attention, if you ignor him for a while (not to long) he will want your attention, and then you have him wrapped around your little finger.
If you don't wanna be with him anymore, do what ya' want it's not cheating if you arent together, make yourself feel better (But it is still childish n stupid to get pay back like that)
Before anything talk to your cousin n boyfriend, ask if he was being 100% serious or playing around before doing to much. If you know he's lying, theres no telling what else he can lie about.
2007-02-12 10:58:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont cheat on him, it'll cause massive problems. That would lower your integrity as a person, and if you did, and you two stayed together, it would shatter the trust. Don't do what you know is wrong. Yes he hurt you, and it sucks, I'm going through something similar (my gf of 1 year just told me she doesnt know if she loves me), but payback will make you feel good for a minute, but even worse in the end.
2007-02-12 10:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you cheat on him, you would be as sleazy as he's. Plus, it may be utilising somebody, which isn't appropriate. cheating on him could additionally make him sense like what he did replace into ok. Its no longer!! you will desire to tell him head to head which you comprehend what he did. do no longer do it over the telephone; even however that's greater common, it is going to easily provide him the potential to dangle up on you. shop your head held intense and tell him that a genuine guy would not cheat. a genuine guy has administration over himself and is familiar with what have faith is. a genuine guy would have the braveness to interrupt up with you if he replace into unhappy instead of going at the back of your back like a weasel. Then, gently walk away. whether you circulate domicile and cry for hours, you would be able to desire to have shown him which you're greater advantageous than basically an merchandise. adult adult males who cheat are not nicely worth it sluggish so do no longer permit him attempt to win you back. as quickly as a cheater, continually a cheater... Oh yea, next time, wait longer earlier you have intercourse. solid good fortune!
2016-11-03 07:00:12 · answer #5 · answered by dewulf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you feel about the situation. If he has cheated on you then why would you want to be with him? It's like saying that you don't satisfy him enough or he could do better than you. It was low of him to do that to you and cheating on him for payback would just be stooping to his level. I may not know you, but you deserve better.
2007-02-12 10:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by nikki_52641 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by cheating on him makes you worst than home. if you were to cheat it honestly isn't making you look better as a person. although it may seem good its not. just because he did that doesnt mean you have to lower yourself down to him. The best thing for you to do, is be mature about it and break up. he sounds like a immature guy who doesnt know what he wants. The best thing for you to do is leave him. your better than that.
2007-02-12 10:49:12 · answer #7 · answered by The Kita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stoop down to his level. If you feel compelled to cheat, then you have not forgiven him, the relationship is not healthy, and you just need to end it.
Vengeance is unbecoming in any form. Be an adult and deal with this maturely. Forgive him and let it go, or end the relationship if you cannot.
2007-02-12 10:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really b/c than that makes him think that its ok for him to cheat on u again and that he can have u and still cheat on u with someone else when u tell him that ur done and break up with him once a cheater ur always a cheater thats what they always say i had a boy cheat on me with someone else and then it ended our 2 years and 3 months relationship b/c of it
2007-02-12 10:58:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what goes around comes around, so yes it would be great for you to cheat on him. However, that doesn't mean cheating is right. Instead of being a heartbreaker, just dump him and find somebody else.
2007-02-12 10:47:39 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Sunshine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋