What dicipline tecniques work for your children?

Question

Different things work for different children so what works for your children?

Answer 1

The kids wanted trust and they had to earn it. They got privileges when they acted appropriately.

Answer 2

I have three children. Two in college one still in elementary school. All three are different.

My oldest responded to nothing but getting spanked and she got the occasional spanking through HS.

My next oldest responded to very simple things like a sharp word or even a "look". Occasionally extra chores were assigned.

My youngest is an anomaly. I'm still not sure what works best for her.

Every child is different as is every family and every situation. You know your children the best. You know what you are most comfortable with. Try different things. You know the options.

Answer 3

i've found that doing the same thing back to my 18month old makes him think its a game so we try to use different methods, we don't smack anymore as he loved that *game* lol, we use timeout for scratching biting pinching, if he bites he also gets a little flick on the cheek (like when breastfeeding), when he has a tantrum at home we get down and have a tantrum with him and he thinks its funny and stops screaming to laugh, although he has only had maybe 2 real tantrums, when he whines for stuff that he cant have we use redirection and distraction and say sorry you can't have that but you can have either this or this. My two younger sisters age5 and 7, the 5yr old cant stand timeout but doesnt care if she gets a smack, whereas the 7yr old loves timeout coz she gets to sit and do nothing but hates getting smacked. It's hard sometimes to figure out which method works best especially when people use their opinions as fact, not everything works for every child, you just have to find what works for you and yours and be consistent with it. :)

Answer 4

I have 3 sons and each one of them is unique in there own way so discipline is different My oldest who is 14 gets booted from the computer and phone for a while (but I do not send him to his room he likes to read to much) My 12 year old gets sent to his room with no TV and my 9 year old gets no tv and toys for a few days. Punishment also varies on the crime LOL

Answer 5

I believe that spanking is good, but only if you can be consistent and calm, and if you have an overly sensitive child and want an alternative, the key is find out what his "currency" is, what he values and then consistently take that thing away, and do it the same way every time, so he knows what is coming and isn't confused. Mother of four.

Answer 6

All children need the same foundation - mommy's milk, mommy's arms, never being left to cry, never being apart from mommy more than 10 hours a week. Give your child that foundation and he is so attached to mommy and so committed to pleasing her that you basically just need to make your expectations clear, your consequences swift, consistent, and related to the act, and your ears open.

Read "How to Talk So Kids will Listen and Listen SO Kids Will Talk."
Great tips on how to lovingly guide your children to being self-disciplined, inwardly motivated adults. All hitting does is train your child to be a slave, to avoid punishment but not to act in a certain way. It removes all autonomy and responsibility and all moral development.


All kids can be properly disciplined when raised with mommy's milk and mommy's arm on demand - and are actually raised, rather than shoved off to day care, shoved in front of the tv, just expected to go away and be quiet.

Answer 7

I read a book called 1-2-3 Magic. It's basic ideas seem to work pretty good. It uses time outs and puts a lot of emphasis on being level with your reactions (i.e. very "matter of fact" in enforcing rules with out showing emotion). Hard to explain, you'd have to read it.

Answer 8

I think it depends on the age of the children. Mine has list of rules that are specific to him and he has to follow them whether he is home or not. For example he loves to argue. If he argues at home he gets a warning then if it repeats he has to go upstairs to his room and sit on his bed. If we are out I give him a warning then depending on where we are he either gets time out or he loses a privilege at home. Each rule on his list is catered to him "aka his usual crimes" running in the house, having a bad attitude after being told no, arguing, and avoiding homework. Believe it or not he is quick to follow the rules as each member including mom and dad have their own set of rules they need to follow. My rules are I will remember to pack snack the night before, lay my clothes out, and do the dishes after dinner. He sees me following the rules and he knows he need to follow suit. It helps if the rules are written out for all to see as a reminder. I hope that helps!

Answer 9

I pick my battles. Is it life threatening? Could it be life changing in a bad way? Can they be redirected to what you want them to do? Basically if they aren't going to be hurt or hurt someone else then its fine. If they are being annoying they go to their room because I need a time out.

Answer 10

I count to three, if I get to three he goes to time out. Most of the time I just say 1 and he stops. Then I remind him why I did that, like "we don't scale bookcases, that can get you hurt". Works like a charm!