My fiance has a guy friend that she had sexual relations with before, she still talks to him over the phone even after i told her that i didn't want her talking to him. She says they're are only friends now, and nothing else. I beleive her, but I dont think its right, and i think he still likes her. How do i get her to stop talking to him? And what should i do if she doesn't want to?
Also one of her close friends (her former tutor) likes her and he even asked her before if they could be friends with benefits, and he's always trying to take her out places. I trust her but I don't trust her friends. It angers me when she talks about them, especially since I'm extremely jealous. Need some good advise. What should I do?
2007-02-12 10:40:20 · 10 answers · asked by gucci 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell her what you just told us. tell her that its important, and from your perspective thats what these things seem like. make sure she knows that you trust her, its just them.
2007-02-12 10:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by .Frequently♥Dazzled. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you had no intentions of dating him, doesn't mean he wasn't interested in you that way. Men often times don't waste their time with female companionship unless their is an ulterior motive. I am not saying men and women can't just be platonic friends, but it is rare. One or the other would have it be more if they could. In this case, lets just say you are just friends, what person really wants their significant other hanging around the opposite sex. There should be trust, but there comes a point, that if you don't want to cheat, you simply don't put yourself in certain situations. For anything can happen, even with the best of intentions.
2016-05-24 02:35:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have nothing to worry about. If you're already soon to be married, then there must be a whole lot of trust between you two, otherwise the relationship wouldn't be where it is now. I believe if you have a problem with this, then you have a jealously problem. I think it would be wrong for you to tell her not to talk to her friends anymore. That's cruel, and as mean as this is going to sound, please don't let your jealously ruin her friendships. You love her, right? Then don't do this to her. <3
2007-02-12 10:46:01 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not...It is possible for ex-'s to be "just friends".
You SAY that you believe her but your actions say otherwise.
Trust in her should be all you need. It's ok to not trust others but it ALL depends on HER actions. If SHE doesn't want anything to happen, it won't.
You do have the right to ask her not to talk about them. But don't take her silence as a sign of any sort of cheating.
2007-02-12 10:45:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember, the amount of jealousy you feel is in direct relation to your own insecurities. Do not ever try to tell anyone who they can be friends with or talk to. She is not yours to controll & if you try it, she won't be yours to love either. I had a very good friend who at one time had been my lover. We realized we made better friends than lovers so we became friends with occasional benefits. When I first met my husband, I told him about my friend. Long story short, my friend was the "person of honor" at my wedding. He said "stud of honor". Ha! When he got married, I held their reception for him. We stayed close friends right up untill his death from a stroke. My husband was not jealous & he knew not to give me ultimatums so everything worked out fine. This man (my husband) even goes with me to my first husband's home for Christmas dinner. The guys help each other when needed & consider each other family. Do not make yourself & your Lady crazy with stupid jealousy. She says she loves you so believe her, love her back & TRUST her. Don't try to own her or controll her or you WILL be sorry.
2007-02-12 10:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by mazell41 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop asking her. You have to trust her not them and if she has given you no reason to suspect they are more than friends then you have to take her word for it and stop pushing her.
I also think you need to look at yourself really long and hard and figure out what it is that makes you so insecure before you marry this girl.
2007-02-12 10:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by stephyhall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
k...so it's great that u've admitted u're jealous...cuz it really shows! u need to stop being so possessive of her...she's said yes to you...and is wearing an engagement ring that YOU gave her. that ought to really tell u something. u can't expect her to drop others in her life that happen to be male and just cling on to you....they are ppl from her past that she still has connections with...they talk!! they're not having sex!! and you DO trust her...so no worries there. =) keep on trusting her...if she does anything to compromise that trust that's one thing...but she's entitled to have a world of connections outside of you!
2007-02-12 10:47:39 · answer #7 · answered by Snki55ed Princess 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
whenever she is talking to him, stop her and you take his place. Talk to her, see what is on her mind, be the one there for her. And likewise, if he ever trys to take her out, you take her out on a very special date instead. Maybe she just needs more attention, you should be the one to give it to her.
2007-02-12 10:45:33 · answer #8 · answered by azº 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've talked to her , now you need to trust her
2007-02-12 10:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ay baby i told u not to worry about me i love you muahhhzzzz
2007-02-13 07:16:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋