By telling her what happend, did I do the wrong thing?

Question

So one of my friends, who is going out with one of my other friends cheated on them. And the manor of cheating was what some would say "going all the way" I dont wanna get graphic.

Anway, i told the girl, whos is my friend, what happend but also asked that when she breaks up with him, not to tell that she knew that he did this. I dont wanna ruin any friendships but what the guy did was terrible and i couldn't live with myself if i let him continue to see her and cheat on her.
Is what I did the right thing?

This was not gossip, I was actually in the room and saw them do this... needless to say... im a bit tramatized.

Answer 1

Telling her was probably the right thing to do. Although you might have confronted your friend first and told him to tell her. I don't know that it was a good idea to throw in the part about "don't tell him why". With something like this you need to be honest and let the chips fall where they might. Friendships are, in part, based on trust. If someone is violating that trust, is it really the best option to put the friendship before honesty.

Answer 2

You did the right thing...But she'll probably tell the guy off and while doing that everything will come out in the open. Or he'll deny it. Either way, you put the cheating thing on the burner. Hopefully she'll do the right thing and get rid of him. Once a cheater always a cheater! Whether it was to go all the way or just a kiss, or flirting,etc. It's cheating!! No one needs a relationship like that. If she is your friend and your so helpful....Maybe, hook her up with someone more her style. Good luck. If she gets mad at you for telling her.......... She wasn't the friend you thought she was. All in all..........I think your a good person. Not every friend would take the chance that you did by telling her. I hope you didn't do it because your the friend of a friend that went all the way.

Answer 3

Guardian angle at one point, hell raiser at another...
What do you think?
Have you ever felt that you really needed to tell someone something and never really did say it? And when you walked away, you say to yourself, damn I should've told them...

Well, if you have then you know how it feels if you didn't tell your friend...

There's no right or wrong, if you can really define what is right or wrong let me know, because everyone has a different opinion about what is right and what is wrong...

You are a friend, friends watch out for each other... you've done what you think was right, now just let them deal with the issue. You can only be there for support.

You are a good honest friend bro, stay that way... people appreciate having friends like you.

Answer 4

You did the right thing and probably saved her from getting even more hurt. It would not have been right had you known that he cheated on her and you never told her. I think you did the right thing by not telling her to tell him it was because he cheated on her that she is breaking up with him. But if she does end up telling him and you lose a friendship over it don't stress he is creep for cheating on his girlfriend and you don't want to be put in the same situation again.

Answer 5

yes. if you let the hurtful truth continues to grow bigger, once she finds out. her heart will be a lot more broken & she'll easily break down more. so you did the right thing, she's better off without him. & she should be glad if it's over & that she has a good friend who cares enough to go asking on yahoo! answers whether he did the right thing or not. that's sweet friendship. if something was up & wrong & it was about you, wouldn't you want to know the truth rather than everyone keeping a secret from you?

Answer 6

Nope. Bad move. Stay away from outher peoples problems. In time the truth will surface on its own. If for some reason they stay together for years and years, than they probably overcame any iissues they once may have had and the event you concerned yourself about is ancient history. If you really think about it, your telling only helped YOU deal with what YOU felt was a moral issue. You only brought about pain and problems for them. You do not know if the issue would have been broached in time, in perhaps a more subtle way. This was a very selfish move.

Answer 7

You did the right thing, bro!! Just don't worry! It'll all work out in the end. It is better to have it out in the open than to have her continue in the relationship with him. She'd get more attached, more would happen, then she'd find out at a bad time and it would crush her more. Finding out sooner than later is a good thing. Just keep going and let it play out. You can't change it, you can just be grateful that you've protected her from getting her heart broken more. It all will be better. *hugs*

Answer 8

u did the right thing cuz a heart is a very fragile thing and its great u told her cuz if she would of found out by herself she wouldn't of ever trusted u again and now she knows she has another friend she can depend on and he knew dat was bad and he shouldn't have done it in the first place trust me i had a situation like this this mornig and it betta to tell the person so they can row stronger in life and have something to expect.in behalf of all the gurls that have been cheated on i want to say THANK YOU for doing the right thing and for making one less heart unbroken

Answer 9

YES you totaly did the right thing. If your friend was cheating on your other friend you should be loyal. Congratulations for doing the right thing! I dont know many guys who would have done that :)

Answer 10

honestly you should have stayed out of it... Because one friend you helped but the other you betray. By you saying don't tell you know, you knew that you were wrong... When friends are dating each other it is hard to give your opinion because both parties are your friends and you don't want to choose sides..