am i mentally ill?

Question

i am 23 year old man. since my teenage, i have realised that i have almost no desicion making power. i keep on thinking forever to take a simple decision. i don't think that i am very low on confidence, but my voice and my hands start shaking, whenever i am in a nervous situation. i feel like any average built man can beat me up, if i mess with him. i always fascinate about having sex with girls but i feel uncomfortable even talking to them. do i need a psychiatrist? am i mentally ill?
could anybody please give me any good suggestions.

Answer 1

It's possible, but to me it sounds like you just need some assertive-strength training.

Even though there is treatment, I don't think it's classified yet as a mental illness. Anxiety disorder is, but you just seem timid and shy.

Answer 2

Low on confidence does not mean mentally ill. Confidence can be built up.
No decision making power does not mean mentally ill. You can be trained.
Nervousness does not mean mentally ill. Even Abraham Lincoln and Churchill were nervous before they made a speech. But they got over the nervousness once they started.
Thinking and fantasizing about girls is not a negative trait. In fact it is positive, normal and healthy.
You are definitely not mentally ill to ask this well worded question. So cheer up and start living.
All what you believe negative in you will vanish in due course of time.

Answer 3

I think your problem is called - Social Anxiety. It is tied to any social situation and it can make you have physical and mental symptoms, some of them are also shaking, confusion, fast heart rate etc. It sounds horrible and feels even worse but good thing about it is that it's curable! However, it won't go away by it self...you have to make some effort in order to beat it. It won't be easy but many people did it so you have a chance too!

See this site, maybe it helps you knowing how common this problem is and helps you compare your troubles with others to comfirm the diagnoses ;)
www.socialanxietysupport.com

Anyway, best thing that can't be missed is going on a therapy, you can't do this alone - support of freinds and family can also mean a great deal!

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Answer 4

We can't diagnose you. You may or may not be mentally ill.

It sounds like you are experiencing a lot of anxiety. It's probably time to tell your family doctor what's going on (print this out and hand it to the doctor if you can't say it). The doctor can advise you and refer you to the assistance you need.

If you don't have a family doctor, try calling your local information and referral center or non-emergency hospital number to find out where you can ask questions of a therapist on a sliding-fee scale.

You are not alone. Take steps for You. You can make this better.

Answer 5

I'd say yes you do need a psychiatrist for one reason only and that you may have Adult ADD. You could have ADD or anxiety or both and a psychiastrist could sort that out for you. Take an online ADD test somewhere. Counselling might be a good start, but if you still have problems concentrating, I'd go see a shrink.

Answer 6

no i just think you lack confidance, i used to be bad at making decisions but i can now. Go and get a some counselling and read some of joyce meyers books she will help you feel more confidant and less fearful, self confidance you know never came to anyone on a plate self confidance comes by trying. read joyce meyers books they will change you. Your not mentally ill everyone has problems God loves you and you are special. you need to give yourself more encouragement, you are great but don,t relise it you are though, believe good things about yourself and you will feel more confidant .

Answer 7

No i woud nt say that you are mental ill casue of the things you have written about here. A lot of people are like that, and they mask it so people do not know that they are like that. To be fancinsing about having sex with a female , well that i would have to say is very normal for most male, cause that is one thing that they do think about a lot. You just need to get out more, and learn to talk to people of the oppistie sex, it sounds like you r having some fear issues if you think that you can be beaten up so easly. But other wise you just need to get out, and get to know more people, and get to know some girls, and learn to talk to them, a lot of guys are shy, and that is ok, cause there are too many of them that are not, and are a pain in the ***. So just try to get out more, and try talking with girls when you meet one, and in time it will become easier for you to talk with them, just don/t forget to treat them like ladies, and show respect for them. You will be ok. You are still a very young man.

Answer 8

This all is nothing but lack of confidance. be confident yourself frist. do some yagic exersices daily , go gim.. take good food these will improve your fisycal and mental health. remember physical health is most imp. in this type of problems. So frist mantain your physical health. Then if not satisfied then consult a good MD.

Answer 9

I was the same way and I don't think it is a mental illness it's just a stage some people go through and it often happens with people with disorders.

Answer 10

Hey u r perfectly ok. Nothing worng. If u need to develop more will power try to go to some yoga classes or personality development session. Beleive me it works miracle. I too was like this, but now I'm more confident n a good home maker. U will be soon alright. Don't worry. God bless you!