is it right for me to ask her to get rid of it? or just wait for her to pawn it?
2007-02-12 10:23:47 · 17 answers · asked by ken 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i still have the promise ring my ex gave me & no i won't get rid of it. women r more sentimental than their men. u prolly tore ur exes pix, she prolly has hers tucked away in a box among other things. don't be alarmed though, we only do it for the sentiment itself, not b/c we want the ex back. it's just another pebble on the path to finding her treasure...YOU.
2007-02-12 10:30:36 · answer #1 · answered by DoMeStIc GoDdEsS 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Depends. Does she wear it on her left ring finger? Does she wear it at all, or keep it in a drawer? Does she seem to have any sentimental attachments to it?
Because, honestly, if it were me, I'd probably keep it just for the shiny jewelry bit of it. If it bothers you, perhaps you could ask her to have the diamond (I'm assuming it's a diamond ring) reset as a necklace? Maybe even make it a gift to her, having the ring remade into something else? That way, she doesn't have to pawn off a piece of jewelry and it can be remade into something from you.
If she objects to that, then I'd consider the possibility of some kind of root behind her keeping it. :/
2007-02-12 10:33:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still have a ring that was given to me by my ex. I simply keep it and wear it because its a damm nice ring. I have thought about pawning it and just getting something else, but I have grown attached to it and I love the style of it. I don't know I have had this conversation with guys that I have dated and it has always been an issue. Its just nice to own a nice piece of jewellery. That isnt too had to understand is it?
2007-02-12 10:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she keeps it as financial "insurance" - she can always sell it for cash. Or maybe she keeps it as a sweet memory - a reminder that someone, at some point in her life, loved her enough to want to marry her. Or maybe as a reminder of a mistake to not make again.
At any rate, the best way to loosen her attachment to this ring is to offer her another one. ;) Once you're engaged, only then would you have the right to suggest her getting rid of the old ring. Or at least ask her to explain why she keeps it.
2007-02-12 10:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he never asked her to return it then its hers to do with as she pleases, If your ex bought you a car and didnt want it back would you keep it. It is a gift after all, she may really like the ring aswell I mean how much jewellery does she have, One day she may want to sell it but thats her choice really, Also she may be waiting for you to give her a replacement. However if she is still rockin the ring on her ring finger then I take it all back cos shes got issues that she needs to deal with. The only way to thru is to discuss it
Good luck
2007-02-12 10:39:56 · answer #5 · answered by ms_lovelace2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends why she keeps it, if its cos its really nice and expensive, fair enough...perhaps though you could ask her to sell it and use the money to buy a ring that the two of you choose together? Or if you are only a 'new' couple, perhaps when you are more serious you could ask her if you can replace that ring with an engagement ring of your own? My boyf has a gold necklace that he wears everyday that his ex bought him, I don't mind, it looks nice and I know he keeps it not because of her, but because he can't be bothered to buy himself a new one when he already has that one! If it really bothers you though you should ask her to sell it and buy one that has meaning for you two only. Good luck!
2007-02-12 10:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by properdivers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her to return the ring and not to waste her money on such a thing. I don't think it would be emasculating but it would be an adorable attempt at a roll reversal which would amuse me.
2016-05-24 02:31:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many reasons she may be keeping it. I'd just not make a big deal out of it. It could be because she really does like the design, it could be because it's a memento, the first time she was proposed to...there's a lot of reasons...don't freak...
2007-02-12 10:27:52 · answer #8 · answered by FavoredbyU 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Run away...it means she has not let go or had enough time to process through it.
My mother in law still wears her ring from her first marriage. She says it was so bad she "earned it".
2007-02-12 10:27:54 · answer #9 · answered by R. D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell your girlfriend how you feel abt her wearing her ex's ring. Ask her if she can take it off and put it away because you feel uncomfortable abt her wearing it. Hopefully she doesnt get mad abt it. Good luck!
2007-02-12 10:28:48 · answer #10 · answered by tommi_ghurl_2006 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋