ok. my grandmom died about 6 years ago. and my grandpop started seeing her best friend. now they are engaged and are getting married in june. they want me to be in the wedding. i really don't like this woman and i don't want them to get married. but i love my grandpop and don't want to hurt his feelings by not being in the wedding. what should i do?
2007-02-12 10:08:56 · 21 answers · asked by irockmyownworld04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Family is the most important thing there is. And you should stand by them even if you don't support their decision. As you said you don't want to hurt his feelings....therefore I think you answered you own question. My Grandfather was HURT really bad because one of his sons did not invite him to his wedding because he was marrying a woman outside his religion. So therefore You should stand by him and stand with him for you love him and he loves you.
2007-02-12 10:39:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you have to decide which is greater - your love for your grandpop or your hatred of this new woman.
Please keep in mind that your grandfather's remarrying does not mean any disrespect to your grandmother. I'm sure he still loves her very much, and that she would have wanted both her husband and her best friend to be happy and move on with their lives. If they can offer each other comfort, and be grateful to the woman who brought them together, then that is a good thing.
2007-02-12 18:14:53 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if she was your grandmothers best friend, then perhaps she really is ok, or are you just upset that she's marrying your grandfather. Was your grandmother the type of person who would have wanted your grandfather to be alone the rest of his life. If your grandparents had a good marriage, then nothing will ever diminish the love he had for his wife, I venture to say he probably just doesn't want to be alone. When someone has been married for a lot of years, and they lose their spouse, it's hard to be alone. Also he's waited a more than appropriate amount of time. Bottom line, be happy your grandfather found someone.
2007-02-12 18:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by beach heaven 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want your grandpop to be happy, right? His feelings should come ahead of yours. It isn't important that YOU like the woman; it's important that he loves her enough to want to marry her. Put on a pleasant face and be in the wedding. Your grandmother would want you to.
2007-02-12 18:12:17 · answer #4 · answered by MOM KNOWS EVERYTHING 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grandpops happy. He's got to live with this woman not you. Try to put on a happy face. He's been thru a hard time and he loves you too.
2007-02-12 18:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be in the wedding. I don't mean to sound rude, really, but this day is about him and it is happening either way so you might as well make it has happy for him as you can. Life is short regardless of whether you hate her or like her she makes him smile...just be happy that he is smiling. Just bite your lip, roll your eyes (not in front of them) and be in the wedding...make your grandpop happy.
2007-02-12 18:24:34 · answer #6 · answered by Lissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love your grandpop then you would want to see to be happy so be in the wedding and try to think positive things and be nice.
2007-02-12 18:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by superfreak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Grandpa already had to deal with the pain of losing the love of his life, don't make him lose you too. I say suck it up and be in the wedding for his sake. You must love him more than you hate her.
Do you really hate her or are you just upset and hurt because you feeling like she's trying to replace your Grandma?
It's a tough thing, I know...just remember that your Grandpa may not be around for too much longer and you want to make nothing but happy, good memories for him.
Also, she's never going to replace your Grandma in your heart or your Grandpa's. He probably is just looking for comfort and doesn't want to be alone.
2007-02-12 18:21:21 · answer #8 · answered by Get a life 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most likely he doesnt have many good years left, also being with his wifes best friend probably reminds him of her in some odd way. Realize that he probably still loves your grandmother deeply and will never replace her but is simply trying to carry on and maintain a happy life.
It's not easy for seniors to meet and find love later in life. If he was able to and togetehr the two of them can carry on your grandmothers memory then you should support that.
questions to ask yourself is did you dilike this women before your grandfatehr started dating her or is because your grandfatehr is dating her? Good luck to you.
2007-02-12 18:31:10 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um if you love your grandpa an if she makes him happy then go. from personal experience my grandpa married 7 8 years after to a woman we didn't like (also he gave her my dead grandmas engagement an wedding ring ) i didn't go to there wedding nor did i care she took everything from him ( he owned his own home car vacation home) an kicked him out with only a few dollars to his name when he was well off i have no regret of not attending a service that i didn't want to happen just do you an do what you feel good about doing dint go
2007-02-12 20:12:12 · answer #10 · answered by rodeogirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋