ok. my grandmom died about 6 years ago. and my grandpop started seeing her best friend. now they are engaged and are getting married in june. they want me to be in the wedding. i really don't like this woman and i don't want them to get married. but i love my grandpop and don't want to hurt his feelings by not being in the wedding. what should i do?
2007-02-12 10:08:45 · 4 answers · asked by irockmyownworld04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
is it about you or is it about your grandpop? if its about you, then you need to ask yourself what is best for you ... but if its about your grandpop, then do what makes him happy ... be happy he found someone he can spend the rest of his days with and him not being alone ... be in his wedding ... one day you will wish you were there. goodluck on your decision.
2007-02-12 10:20:51 · answer #1 · answered by Bee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know hon, this is HIS life and HIS choice.
You personally could ruin his happiness. Being young you can't see him getting married to your grandma's best friend. You know this happens all the time when an older person dies they marry a friend or a sister in law or something like that. You are too young to understand.
Just understand that you don't have the right to make his life misserable. This will take maturity on your part to accept his choice. Life will be ilke this...other people will make choices that you don't agree with. You can't change others but you can change the way you react. And let go of the feeling that you don't like her.
You have one life....Choose your battles well.
Hon , they will marry no matter what you do. Your not being in the wedding or not attending the wedding won't change things. It will build a wall between you and your grandpop. Do you want that wall there ? When he dies will you might regret that you put your feelings before his. Time is short. Love and accept his choices.
Or be prepared to open your wound and fester for years.
You just have one life to live.
2007-02-12 18:52:47 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU REALLY DON'T WANT TO BE IN THE WEDDING, TELL HIM YOU AREN'T COMFORTABLE PARTICIPATING AND WOULD MUCH RATHER BE JUST A GUEST. IT'S HARD TO TELL YOUR PARENTS OR GRANDPARENTS THAT YOU DON'T LIKE SOMEONE THEY ARE DATING OR GETTING MARRIED TO. IF YOU TELL HIM WHY YOU ARE UNCOMFORTABLE (GENTLY TELL HIM) HE MAY UNDERSTAND. I DON'T THINK HE IS GOING TO WANT TO PUSH HIS FAMILY AWAY BY MARRYING SOMEONE THEY CAN'T STAND! GOOD LUCK.
2007-02-12 18:18:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jen G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your grandfather about your feelings
2007-02-12 18:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋