how do i get him to pay more attention to me?

Question

how do i get my boyfreind to pay more attention to me than to his freinds without dumping him and i really like him but i think he just needs to pay more attention to me but i also dont want to trap him and make him feel like he has to stay with me or all dump him so help me please

Answer 1

how long have you two been together?
I'd suggest maybe picking a couple days a week that the two of you agree to spend time together. Figure out what it is that he enjoys doing, show interest in those activities - it's a good way to get involved. Don't stop him from hanging out with his friends though, try to come across subtle so he doesn't feel like you're 'trapping' him (as you so put). Or maybe, if he's going out with his friends tell him you'd like to come along and meet them all. Early on in any relationship it takes time for men and women alike to alter how they spend their time. If you're in a situation where you've been together for a while and he's buggering off to be with his buds, just tell him straight up that you don't feel like you're spending enough time together and that you'd like to do something about it but need his suggestion. Be as open as possible, don't freak out at him if he gives you an answer you don't like, calmly explain what it is you're looking for. Like anything, it all takes time and patience. You'll have to decide for yourself how much time you need from him. Best of luck!