Ladies. A man's biggest fear is having a gold-digger for a
girlfriend, or fiance. I know not all girls are gold diggers, but how
do you tell if your the one your dating is one? What ever happened
finding a guy for "True Love" "For richer or poorer". What are the
signs to tell if the girl i'm dating is after my wallet?
2007-02-12 09:52:07 · 27 answers · asked by tsmalls5 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If there is a big gap in your socio-economic standing with you being quite a bit more wealthy than she is, then you should worry. If you are just an average joe making an average wage, and she has a job too, she couldn't care less about how much you make.
But if she always wants you to buy her things, and never does anything in return like make you dinner, or buy you a nice gift for your birthday or Christmas, then she might be a gold digger.
2007-02-12 09:56:27 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet n Sour 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you see what she expects from you on Valentine's Day or her birthday, and that might give you a clue.
And, it goes both ways, my friend. Us women are tired of men who only want women with big b**bs and slim waists.
If the girl you are dating never offers to pay for dinner or reciprocate with fixing you dinner, she is either poor or money hungry. If she stops by the jewelry store every time you are in the mall, even just the windows, beware. If she is always looking at cars better than yours and commenting on them, she may be a golddigger. Is she embarassed about your job description? She may be money hungry.
Get to know a woman by being friends first, then date. You could learn a lot.
2007-02-12 09:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great question! I can tell you that not all women are gold diggers. You can tell if she is one by your conversations. Doe she always talk about money? What is she used to? How was she brought up? Does she "wish" for expensive items? The conversations you have; does ask anything about your salary and where you see yourself? Most women who are gold diggers don't or can't hide that. I've listened to women like that, trust me. Good luck!
2007-02-12 09:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a gold digger. But anyways back to the question, if she constantly wants to go out and you to get her flowers and she always makes you pay for everything then she's probably after your money
2007-02-12 09:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by ALL SMILES :D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple. as said previously, get some of the cheapest food and a movie then see what happens. women aren't after ur wallet- we're after something more expensive if u get my meaning. besides, only bitches are gold diggers, and most people are smart enough to notice this.
2007-02-12 09:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought my wife was that way for a long time. Everytime I get a paycheck I just sign it over to her. But she would rarely let me have money for things i want. I thought she was out spending it all, but I looked in her checkbook and saw that we have like $4,000 in there. She saves it all. So be careful, even if you think she might be a "gold-digger", she could be helping you out, doing you a favor. But my phylosophy is that if you love the girl, who cares if she's robbing you. Follow your heart.
2007-02-12 09:59:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just check her debt. If it is big, date someone else. Debt is a sure sign of a golddigger. A goldigger cannot resist getting into debt when she's not currently with a man. She's looking for YOU to pay it off or to pay her expenses while she pays it off. More common then conscious golddiggers are unconcous golddiggers. They are worse because they don't display the outright greed, but they are just as willing to have you pay off their huge debt or ruin your credit once you move in together. This method will flush them out too.
If you encounter a woman who is not divorced and has no debt, she's like 99.9% likely to NOT be a golddigger. If she is divorced she may be burning through her settlement, but usually they have tons of debt too.
2007-02-12 09:55:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are flashing it around what do you expect. That is the same thing as a woman with her hooters hanging out. You would call her a whore. Call it like you see.
If I see a dummy flashing his wallet around all time then I am sure as hell gonna take it. That is not my character. I am far from materialistic but many of my friends are. You should not let them see all of your goods the first time around.
Men see women that are easy so they take 'em straight to the sack.
Women see men willing to flash the wallet and they take them to the bank.
2007-02-12 10:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont believe that "for richer or poorer" you NEVER want to subject your love to not having enough money to pay bills and mortgage
no ladies are after your wallet --- they they want to be sure that you can give them a comfortable life --- where you can both concentrate on growing your relationship rather than scratching to pay for the basics
2007-02-12 10:01:24 · answer #9 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do a lot of things that don't require money for dates. Like, take a walk just to talk and get some fresh air. Do things together like watch a movie at home with some popcorn. Things that don't require money. If that's ok with her, chances are she isn't after your money. If she complains, make your decision from that or just talk to her about your fears. Good luck!!
2007-02-12 09:56:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋