My baby's father is really a joke. See I will get on him to get a job and help me take care of our child. We currently for financial reasons don't live together. He doesn't have a job but I do. We have a 2 month old baby. I take care of her because I can't stand for her to be to far. But it is hard for me to drop her off at his house (he lives with his mom, I live with my grandmother.) then go to work. I don't know how to drive (I am to scared) And he doesn't have a car and his mom can't pick and drop her off everyday she has stuff to do. Well my baby's father will come see her and give me a few dollars for her. Well see he lies out of his @$$. Like I told him I need $200 so we could get in an apartment. He told me that he had it. So I said OK (I didn't beleave him in the first place) Went to his house to get it he said it was somewhere else and he would have to bring it to me today. NO BABY DADDY YET. Durring this whole time I am acting all excited he lies soooo much. what should I do
2007-02-12 09:47:06 · 37 answers · asked by lonelybridget 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
OK...and actually you ALREADY know the score...the guys a turkey! People who lie are beyond worthless.....when you are able... take him to court and at least get a LEGAL judgment for child support. Meanwhile if you believe the baby is in good hands when you drop her off, continue with that. You need all the help you can get right now. CUT your loses with this guy and PLS do not become re-involved with him! Things will work out if you keep your head togather...you owe that to your baby. Best of luck to you and your baby!
2007-02-12 09:57:09 · answer #1 · answered by Thankyou4givengmeaheadache 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your baby's father has a lot of growing up to do. You need to think about you and your child right now. Sounds like you are the one that will be the "bread winner" in this situation. If you really, truly.love this guy, know that what you see is what you get. If you know deep down in your heart that how he is will be toxic to your little family unit, then let him be a father, and that's it. It's about the baby. Guys can be good fathers, and not always a good husband or companion, and that's ok. It doesn't have to be about you and him anymore. It's all about the baby.
Concentrate on making sure you can provide for yourself and your daughter. When he's ready for the responsibility, he'll come around. (Maybe) But make sure you make the child support legal. The Department of Child Support will do it for free.
I have a 10 year old son from a previous relationship, and I've since married someone else and had a daughter.
I knew that my son's Dad would be not be the one I'd want to wake up next to when I'm 60. He lies constantly too! I knew I'd be unhappy being with him and I didn't want my son see that, it would be a bad environment for him.
Do what you know is right for your daughter and what is healthy for you. Good Luck!
2007-02-12 10:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? I am sorry to say that it sounds like he isn't motivated enough to do what is right. Does he have an education? Do you? Maybe you should just focus on you and your baby. Get an education - it is the one thing that no one can take from you, not even a lieing baby father. Have you talked with his mother? Seems like she feels enough to come by and give money for her grandchild every now and then. In the short term I would try and work things out with him if you think that he would be a good father and mate for you. I would work on getting my education and taking care of my baby first and not worry about the small minded boy that doesn't seem to be too grown up and willing to take responcibility. Itis a hard road to understand and follow but this is what you have gotten from your life and it is up to YOU to make it better, not some man. I wish you well sweetie. *hugs*
2007-02-12 09:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by Airplanegirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him? You aren't really with him. You're both living off someone else. You have found out too late why kids shouldn't be having sex and producing babies when they can't even take care of themselves. If you haven't already found it out, let me tell you the baby's father is a lazy, no-good jerk who has no intention of earning a living and making a good home for the three of you. Leave his sorry A*S*S and raise your baby the best you can without him. Learn to drive (it's okay to be scared; you'll get over that). Don't get in a rush to hook up with anyone else. It takes time to find a guy worth having and you sure don't need another loser.
2007-02-12 10:30:22 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, stop playing games with him and letting him lead you on. Stop treating him like an slot machine or ATM (where you might get a little bit of cash when you need it) and start insisting he be more of a paycheck.
Regardless of your marital status or living arrangements, he needs to provide child support for the care of his child. You need to set up a steady system of how he either gives you money or provides childcare (by looking after the baby himself, not making his mom do it). He should either give you cold hard cash on the first of each month, or he should come to pick up the child every day and care for her. Figure out which arrangement works best for both of you - maybe it's more effective if he plays daddy/househusband and raises her, or maybe it's better if he realizes he needs to get a job.
If he can't agree, or won't live up to the agreement, haul his butt to court and sue him for child support.
Stop waiting for some baby daddy to solve your problems, and get proactive about making solutions happen!
2007-02-12 09:57:40 · answer #5 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to courtroom. tell her to report for sole custody of her new child. she will go away the state if she had to, and since the father is being neglectful, then greater advantageous than probably the courts would be in her choose. it seems as though he would not care approximately the two considered one of them,so i'm surprisingly specific there'll by no potential be various a combat. That style of atmosphere isn't any place for a new child. do no longer difficulty, she would be able to no longer get in worry for leaving the state. in certainty, she'd probable get in worry if she stayed there. wish I helped!
2016-11-03 06:52:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you probably should not have gotten pregnant with this loser in the first place, but since you didn't ask for a lecture, i won't give you one.
leave his as* as soon as possible but take him to court!
court can MAKE him pay child support, where you seem to not be able to.
it's not like he has rent to pay... he lives with his mom.
you need to be strong for your baby. he/she needs you.. and you need to be able to support you and your baby without relying on the father who is, apparently, unreliable.
my best friend's baby's father has seen him once, when he was a week old. he's going on 2 months now. The fatehr just doesn't care at all. She learned from halfway through her pregnancy that he was unreliable so she has never expected anything from him and always took care of herself and her little guy all on her own.
You need to take things into your own hands!!!
Ask the government for help. You can get welfare and social security checks every week/month if you are eligible.
Be strong, you have another life to worry about for at least, the next 18 years! Goodluck.
2007-02-12 10:01:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can end things with the baby's daddy if you don't want to continue a relationship with him, but he's got every right to see his child so... he'll always be in your life like it or not !
As far as money goes you can put in an order for child support! It's one way to make sure that he helps in the costs of raising his daughter !
As far as him seeing the baby... make a schedule that best suits all of you so that transportation can be provided wether it be by his mom or other mode... doesn't matter how or whom goes to whom... what matters is that the two of them spend time together!
I wish you the best of luck! Congrats on being a new mom!!
2007-02-12 10:06:55 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to dump the jerk. If he can't support you and his child why are you still with him? Don't put up with his lies anymore. Also, why are you afraid to drive? It is gonna be really hard to raise a child if you can't drive her around especially once she's older and starts joining activities and playing at friends houses. Get over it and learn how to drive. It sounds to me like you both have a lot of growing up to do.
2007-02-12 09:52:52 · answer #9 · answered by Steph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is his job to help financially for the baby,but it is also up to you to find a place.He seems sorry so leave his ***.Take him up for child support if he doesn't get a job then he will be going to jail.If he doesn't want to help the baby or you then he must not care about the both of you,so why are with him?Think about it.So you can let him know when you leave him,or whatever if don't get a job you will take him for child support.
2007-02-12 10:44:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋