Did you decide to continue working because you wouldn't be able to provide food and shelter? For a little extra cash? You loved your job? They wouldn't take you back if you left? Your husband stayed home? You were the biggest breadwinner, but your husband didn't want to stay home? Had family to care for your child? Or other?
2007-02-12 09:42:36 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I hope you don't think I am a bad person, but being a stay at home mom is not built into me. I think I would go crazy if I had to stay home with my child all day everyday. Don't get me wrong, I love my son with all my heart and wouldn't trade him for anything, but I need my adult conversation and the paycheck is important too. I think that some moms just have that gift of desiring to stay at home with there kids, but I don't feel bad for not being one of them.
2007-02-12 10:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by Izzy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because I want better for my child than a single income can offer. And on down the road, I don't think he should have to get a job in high school to try to buy a car or to pay his own insurance. His job will be to make good grades. When he goes to college he shouldn't have to take out any kind of loans to get through. Its my duty as a parent to see to his needs as long as he's doing his part as a student.
There are so many kids whose parents expect them to get a job the minute they turn 16, and start supporting themselves. As long as my child is "doing his job" by being the kind of student he needs to be, he'll not have to worry about working until he's ready to begin his life. That's why I am a working mom. I wouldn't change my mind on that either. To stay at home now would only hurt him later.
2007-02-12 09:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by whosaysdiscoisdead 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There were no choices as to whether or not I would be returning to work...their Dad's in prison and there isn't anyone else going to pay for me to be a stay at home mom...even when he was out I worked...1 income is just not enough to provide my children with the type of life that they see the other kids getting to lead...my kids mean more to me than anything in this whole world...if they need new clothes or want to be part of something at school I need to be able to pay for it and the only way I'm going to be able to afford to do so is to get up in the morning haul my butt to work and make a paycheck...besides that I want my kids to see that you have to work for what you want...nobody is going to hand them anything and nothing in life is free!
2007-02-12 09:53:16 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stayed home with my daughter til she was 18 months old, but will be going back to work after our son is born (38 weeks). It's partly for the extra money, but also because it gives me a little break from being away from other adults, too. I'll mostly just be working in the evenings and weekends, when my husband will be home with the kids. It'll allow me to be a grownup for a little while.
2007-02-12 09:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you asked for working moms, but I chose to stay home because the amount of money I made wasn't worth the cost of daycare. We could certainly use 2 incomes but it just wasn't worth it for me to barely make anything when I could stay home and raise our daughter myself. Once my daughter was about 18 months I did get a part time job during hours my husband was home, both to get out of the house as well as for some extra cash. I am staying at home again (#2 due in less than 2 months) but once this one is a toddler I will go back to work again, she will be our last. I plan to wait until they are both in regular school to go back full time, daycare just costs too much, my cousin works at one and she says for the care the children receive they sure aren't worth the money anyway!
2007-02-12 09:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Klara♥ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I make more money than my husband, and I carry our insurance. We wouldn't be able to get insurance for the whole family through his job, and we didn't think we could make it, food and shelter-wise, on his income alone. Plus, we support my mother-in-law, and there was no way we could cover both households on a single income.
But I do love my job. It's the only job I've ever wanted, and the atmosphere is totally casual and creative and great.
I love my little girls, but I always knew I wanted to go back to work. I frequently work from home or take advantage of a generous vacation policy so I can spend more time with them. But when I'm working, they go to a great in-home daycare that I feel really good about. I have a flexible schedule that allows me to spend time with them in the morning and do the preschool/daycare drop-offs, and my husband gets off early in the afternoon so he can spend time with them then.
My mother worked. My husband's mother worked. Both of my grandmothers worked. I can't imagine NOT working.
It was the right thing for my family. Maybe not right for everyone's, but definitely right for mine.
2007-02-12 09:53:54 · answer #6 · answered by Yarro Pilz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had been working most of my life and enjoyed working. We needed the money in order to provide a roof over our heads, and I wanted to remain in the workforce in case something happened in the future where I would need to return to work. I wanted to keep my skills current so that in the event of something drastic happening I would be employable, especially in today's job market. My now ex husband was military so he COULDN'T stay home. No we did not have family to care for our daughter she did very well in day care and I was able to maintain a position where I had flexibility with my hours and spent just about as much "quality" time with her as most stay at home moms do. I was there for every one of my daughter's "firsts" including her graudation from preschool. The only time I missed a special event in my daughter's life was when she was living with her father and attending college in New York state and was 19 years old. If I had the money to travle to New York at the time I would not have missed that event either.
2007-02-12 10:15:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a mother myself yet, but I can speak for my own. I talked to my mother about this at one time, and for her it was about money. In today's world, unless the father has a very good job, living on one income can be difficult. She went to work so that my parents would better be able to provide for me, and the family as a whole. I don't resent her for it either. I have an excellent relationship with my mama and always have.
2007-02-12 09:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was many things. One and the most important one, finances. Babies are expensive and I realized I had to work in order to get all the things babies need. Second, I wanted to be settled in a job by the time my son started school so I could take more time off without being afraid of loosing my job. So that I could be more involve din his everyday life. And third, My childcare I found is great. I figured I could go to work and not be afraid of anything horrible happening to my son.
2007-02-12 09:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by Naomi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We needed the money. We could survive on my husbands wages but we would not have been able to buy a house and have the things we like to have. I think even if we could afford it I would still work part time just for a "break" from my kids. I love them to death but it can be overwhelming sometimes.
2007-02-12 09:48:02 · answer #10 · answered by llama_face99 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋